But love without boundaries can become possession, control, or self-erasure.
A boundary can say:
"I will not destroy myself to love you."
And,
"I will not destroy you to protect myself."
It's spiritually healthy to have boundaries.
But love without boundaries can become possession, control, or self-erasure.
A boundary can say:
"I will not destroy myself to love you."
And,
"I will not destroy you to protect myself."
It's spiritually healthy to have boundaries.
It could have been your time, attention, help, or maybe money.
And then something inside you said, “Wait.”
What exactly is happening in that tiny space between generosity and hesitation?
It could have been your time, attention, help, or maybe money.
And then something inside you said, “Wait.”
What exactly is happening in that tiny space between generosity and hesitation?
It needs permission to change.
That’s doesn't mean faith has to die.
That's just how faith stays alive in the real world.
It needs permission to change.
That’s doesn't mean faith has to die.
That's just how faith stays alive in the real world.
I'm more concerned about whether following Jesus produces extraordinary human beings.
Eventually, a religion is going to be judged by what kind of people it helps us become.
I'm more concerned about whether following Jesus produces extraordinary human beings.
Eventually, a religion is going to be judged by what kind of people it helps us become.
Give up the burden of uncertainty, and we’ll give you the certainty you crave so you can feel safe.
The problem is that this certainty comes with a heafty price.
Someone else gets to decide which questions you’re allowed to ask.
Is it really worth it?
Give up the burden of uncertainty, and we’ll give you the certainty you crave so you can feel safe.
The problem is that this certainty comes with a heafty price.
Someone else gets to decide which questions you’re allowed to ask.
Is it really worth it?
But it does destroy the version of faith that required you to distrust your own questions.
What comes after may be less certain.
But it will also be more honest.
But it does destroy the version of faith that required you to distrust your own questions.
What comes after may be less certain.
But it will also be more honest.
It depends on becoming a way of life worth choosing when nobody is frightened into choosing it.
If fear of hell disappears and the gospel has nothing left to offer, that says something about the religion.
It depends on becoming a way of life worth choosing when nobody is frightened into choosing it.
If fear of hell disappears and the gospel has nothing left to offer, that says something about the religion.
What if it’s about development, belonging, and fear?
Or, what happens to us when the world we’ve built feels threatened?
That changes the question from:
“What’s wrong with them?”
to...
“Could I be doing the same thing without realizing it?”
What if it’s about development, belonging, and fear?
Or, what happens to us when the world we’ve built feels threatened?
That changes the question from:
“What’s wrong with them?”
to...
“Could I be doing the same thing without realizing it?”
"God said it" can justify anything and end critical conversation necessary for discernment.
Newslflash...
Life is messy. Discernment is messy. And we (not God) are responsible for our behavior.
"God said it" can justify anything and end critical conversation necessary for discernment.
Newslflash...
Life is messy. Discernment is messy. And we (not God) are responsible for our behavior.
"God said it" can justify anything and end critical conversation necessary for discernment.
Newslflash...
Life is messy. Discernment is messy. And we (not God) are responsible for our behavior.
"God said it" can justify anything and end critical conversation necessary for discernment.
Newslflash...
Life is messy. Discernment is messy. And we (not God) are responsible for our behavior.
For me, prayer is what happens when we become present enough to notice what our ordinary consciousness keeps editing out.
-Pain
-Beauty
-Longing
-Another person
Prayer changes the world by changing what becomes impossible to ignore.
For me, prayer is what happens when we become present enough to notice what our ordinary consciousness keeps editing out.
-Pain
-Beauty
-Longing
-Another person
Prayer changes the world by changing what becomes impossible to ignore.
If salvation means healing, I think Christianity needs to refocus from "Who gets saved?" to...
What needs healing?
-in us
-between us
-in the world we share
That reorientation changes how we embrace salvation and give expression to it.
If salvation means healing, I think Christianity needs to refocus from "Who gets saved?" to...
What needs healing?
-in us
-between us
-in the world we share
That reorientation changes how we embrace salvation and give expression to it.
It turns out there may be a psychological reason for that.
And it reveals something uncomfortable about fundamentalism that we often overlook...
Or just don't want to see.
It turns out there may be a psychological reason for that.
And it reveals something uncomfortable about fundamentalism that we often overlook...
Or just don't want to see.
Intelligence isn’t the problem.
Something much more human is going on...
And it gets uncomfortable.
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Intelligence isn’t the problem.
Something much more human is going on...
And it gets uncomfortable.
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evolvingchristianfaith.substack.com/
In fact, its contradictions demand more from me than perfection ever could.
A perfect book could tell me what to think in a life of faith.
But it takes a complicated one to force me to learn how to think in a life of faith.
In fact, its contradictions demand more from me than perfection ever could.
A perfect book could tell me what to think in a life of faith.
But it takes a complicated one to force me to learn how to think in a life of faith.
-Fear of hell
-Fear of doubt
-Fear of being wrong
-Fear of leaving
Losing that fear may feel like losing God.
But it isn't.
It's healthy to let it go.
-Fear of hell
-Fear of doubt
-Fear of being wrong
-Fear of leaving
Losing that fear may feel like losing God.
But it isn't.
It's healthy to let it go.
It's what remains after our answers reach their limits.
I don't think a mature faith involves learning enough to codify Mystery.
It's learning how to live meaningfully without eliminating it.
Embrace the adventure of faith.
It's what remains after our answers reach their limits.
I don't think a mature faith involves learning enough to codify Mystery.
It's learning how to live meaningfully without eliminating it.
Embrace the adventure of faith.
Maybe it's, "What kind of life is worth building now?"
Beliefs matter.
A lot.
But eventually reconstruction has to become more than just adhering to a new set of ideas.
Maybe it's, "What kind of life is worth building now?"
Beliefs matter.
A lot.
But eventually reconstruction has to become more than just adhering to a new set of ideas.
But here's a better question:
What kind of relationships does this belief facilitate?
You see, every theology creates a social world.
Some teach power-over. Others power-with.
Pay attention to that.
The difference is more important than any doctrine.
But here's a better question:
What kind of relationships does this belief facilitate?
You see, every theology creates a social world.
Some teach power-over. Others power-with.
Pay attention to that.
The difference is more important than any doctrine.
We hope spiritual growth will change us,
Then we avoid the things that actually change us:
-practice
-failure
-reflection
-adjustment
-repetition
Spiritual transformation isn't something we discover,
Or something that happens because we read about it.
It's something we rehearse.
We hope spiritual growth will change us,
Then we avoid the things that actually change us:
-practice
-failure
-reflection
-adjustment
-repetition
Spiritual transformation isn't something we discover,
Or something that happens because we read about it.
It's something we rehearse.
What if it's what becomes possible because something has actually died?
-An identity
-A certainty
-A God-concept
-A former life
Maybe resurrection begins when we stop trying to resurrect what really needed to end.
What if it's what becomes possible because something has actually died?
-An identity
-A certainty
-A God-concept
-A former life
Maybe resurrection begins when we stop trying to resurrect what really needed to end.
A conversation wakes you up.
An idea gives you energy.
A possibility makes you lean forward.
What if those surges of aliveness are clues?
A conversation wakes you up.
An idea gives you energy.
A possibility makes you lean forward.
What if those surges of aliveness are clues?
You can change every doctrine and keep the same need to be right.
The deeper alternative is learning to hold convictions without needing everyone else to be wrong.
You can change every doctrine and keep the same need to be right.
The deeper alternative is learning to hold convictions without needing everyone else to be wrong.
It's dying because too many people discovered they could become more compassionate, curious, and more fully human outside than inside the church.
That's not a evangelization problem.
It's a spiritual formation problem.
It's dying because too many people discovered they could become more compassionate, curious, and more fully human outside than inside the church.
That's not a evangelization problem.
It's a spiritual formation problem.
It was inherited before we were old enough to question it.
Deconstruction can feel like losing faith because, for the first time, we're actually discovering what it is that we actually believe.
It was inherited before we were old enough to question it.
Deconstruction can feel like losing faith because, for the first time, we're actually discovering what it is that we actually believe.