Ella Field
@bonusbench.bsky.social
Stepmum, bonus-bench warmer and chronic observer of family life. Writing about the strange, funny, difficult and unexpectedly lovely business of loving children who aren't yours.
Being a step-mum is a strange place to sit. I'm not their mum. I'm not trying to be. I'm something else: part of this family, yet standing on the sidelines.
I've decided to write about it.
Welcome to the #BonusBench 💛
delenitiquia398112.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-bonusbench
I've decided to write about it.
Welcome to the #BonusBench 💛
delenitiquia398112.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-bonusbench
Welcome to the #BonusBench
Notes from the #BonusBench #1
delenitiquia398112.substack.com
August 18, 2026 at 3:46 PM
Being a step-mum is a strange place to sit. I'm not their mum. I'm not trying to be. I'm something else: part of this family, yet standing on the sidelines.
I've decided to write about it.
Welcome to the #BonusBench 💛
delenitiquia398112.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-bonusbench
I've decided to write about it.
Welcome to the #BonusBench 💛
delenitiquia398112.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-bonusbench