Chatting With The Lightkeeper
@chattingwiththelightkeeper.com
Blogger, Coffee Aficionado, D/S Advocate, Podcaster, & Skier Sharing My Passion About BDSM In A Positive, Uplifting Space. Michigan Is Home.
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The Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast for over five years continues to explore the world of BDSM, D/S, and kink.
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The most asked #BDSM question?
It’s Just 7 Words.
That sounds small; heck, maybe even simple. But skipping this, and you may slip and fall for someone with bad intentions.
So grab your headphones press play on the new episode of the podcast.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
It’s Just 7 Words.
That sounds small; heck, maybe even simple. But skipping this, and you may slip and fall for someone with bad intentions.
So grab your headphones press play on the new episode of the podcast.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
Have you heard of Bastinado? This soleful activity is one of my most read articles, so here it is for Throwback Thursday👇
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Understanding Bastinado In BDSM - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Bastinado the art of disciplining soles is in focus this week on Fetish Friday. Explore its history and how it is a part of modern BDSM.
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September 17, 2026 at 12:29 PM
Have you heard of Bastinado? This soleful activity is one of my most read articles, so here it is for Throwback Thursday👇
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Many assume it is all about physical sensations and for some it is, but for many it goes much deeper than touch.
September 17, 2026 at 12:10 PM
Many assume it is all about physical sensations and for some it is, but for many it goes much deeper than touch.
September 16, 2026 at 2:17 PM
The most asked #BDSM question?
It’s Just 7 Words.
That sounds small; heck, maybe even simple. But skipping this, and you may slip and fall for someone with bad intentions.
So grab your headphones press play on the new episode of the podcast.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
It’s Just 7 Words.
That sounds small; heck, maybe even simple. But skipping this, and you may slip and fall for someone with bad intentions.
So grab your headphones press play on the new episode of the podcast.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
The Official Home Of The Chatting With The Lightkeeper Podcast
The Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast for over five years continues to explore the world of BDSM, D/S, and kink.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com
September 15, 2026 at 12:17 PM
The most asked #BDSM question?
It’s Just 7 Words.
That sounds small; heck, maybe even simple. But skipping this, and you may slip and fall for someone with bad intentions.
So grab your headphones press play on the new episode of the podcast.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
It’s Just 7 Words.
That sounds small; heck, maybe even simple. But skipping this, and you may slip and fall for someone with bad intentions.
So grab your headphones press play on the new episode of the podcast.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
ADHD and submission can bring unique challenges.
Explore practical ways to create a dynamic that works with ADHD👇
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Explore practical ways to create a dynamic that works with ADHD👇
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ADHD and Submission: Understanding the Challenges and Benefits - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
ADHD and submission can bring unique challenges and to a D/S dynamic. Explore practical ways to create a dynamic that works with ADHD.
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September 14, 2026 at 11:14 AM
ADHD and submission can bring unique challenges.
Explore practical ways to create a dynamic that works with ADHD👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/adhd-mon-min...
Explore practical ways to create a dynamic that works with ADHD👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/adhd-mon-min...
Duos have helped shape history from Antony and Cleopatra, Lucy and Desi, Lennon and McCartney, to Batman and Robin.
Maybe not so much Batman & Robin, but does #kink & #poly have a dynamic duo?
Discover them in my new article 👇
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Maybe not so much Batman & Robin, but does #kink & #poly have a dynamic duo?
Discover them in my new article 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/easton-hardy...
How Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Redefined Kink and Polyamory - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Discover how Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy redefined kink and polyamory through books that shaped BDSM education and remain relevant today.
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September 11, 2026 at 11:32 AM
Duos have helped shape history from Antony and Cleopatra, Lucy and Desi, Lennon and McCartney, to Batman and Robin.
Maybe not so much Batman & Robin, but does #kink & #poly have a dynamic duo?
Discover them in my new article 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/easton-hardy...
Maybe not so much Batman & Robin, but does #kink & #poly have a dynamic duo?
Discover them in my new article 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/easton-hardy...
This Throwback Thursday:
SHOW ME THE MONEY
Findom IS about money BUT...
That is not the whole story.
One of my most-read articles explains👇
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SHOW ME THE MONEY
Findom IS about money BUT...
That is not the whole story.
One of my most-read articles explains👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/fet-friday-f...
Understanding Findom Financial Domination In BDSM - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Financial domination, more commonly known as Findom, is one of the most fascinating corners of the D/S spectrum because it places money itself at the center of erotic exchange. At its core, Findom inv...
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September 10, 2026 at 1:35 PM
This Throwback Thursday:
SHOW ME THE MONEY
Findom IS about money BUT...
That is not the whole story.
One of my most-read articles explains👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/fet-friday-f...
SHOW ME THE MONEY
Findom IS about money BUT...
That is not the whole story.
One of my most-read articles explains👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/fet-friday-f...
Here is a #sensual #poem about the most important meal of the day, breakfast.
Tap To Read👇
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Tap To Read👇
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Breakfast In Bed - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
This Wordsmith Wednesday takes breakfast in bed to the sensual and erotic. Discover how two lovers enjoy an orgasmic meal.
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September 9, 2026 at 12:25 PM
Here is a #sensual #poem about the most important meal of the day, breakfast.
Tap To Read👇
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Tap To Read👇
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#Dominant = he/him #Submissive = she/her
We see it all the time and not just as personal preference.
Does #D/S provide cover to male superiority?
Here is what I see 👇
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We see it all the time and not just as personal preference.
Does #D/S provide cover to male superiority?
Here is what I see 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/sexism-gende...
BDSM Gender Roles: When D/S Becomes Sexism - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
When did being dominant become synonymous with being male? An examination of gender roles, male superiority, and sexism in D/S.
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September 8, 2026 at 12:21 PM
#Dominant = he/him #Submissive = she/her
We see it all the time and not just as personal preference.
Does #D/S provide cover to male superiority?
Here is what I see 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/sexism-gende...
We see it all the time and not just as personal preference.
Does #D/S provide cover to male superiority?
Here is what I see 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/sexism-gende...
September 7, 2026 at 12:43 PM
Looking for something to watch this long weekend?
Check out one of these movies that feature #BDSM and not one of them has "shades" in the title.👇
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Check out one of these movies that feature #BDSM and not one of them has "shades" in the title.👇
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BDSM Movies You Need To Watch - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Want to watch something BDSM or kink related but not sure what? Here are twenty-seven movies plus what they get right and wrong plus why you should watch them. Your next BDSM movie night starts here.
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September 5, 2026 at 12:39 PM
Looking for something to watch this long weekend?
Check out one of these movies that feature #BDSM and not one of them has "shades" in the title.👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/movie-lifest...
Check out one of these movies that feature #BDSM and not one of them has "shades" in the title.👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/movie-lifest...
Had dating apps existed in 1995, Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns would be the #BDSM lifestyle opener.
Find out why this book hit at just the right time.
Discover Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns 👇
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Find out why this book hit at just the right time.
Discover Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns 👇
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The Evolution Of BDSM Education: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
In the 1990s, BDSM was becoming more visible but information was still hard to find. How did Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns change that?
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September 4, 2026 at 12:01 PM
Had dating apps existed in 1995, Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns would be the #BDSM lifestyle opener.
Find out why this book hit at just the right time.
Discover Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/roses-thorns...
Find out why this book hit at just the right time.
Discover Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns 👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/roses-thorns...
One of the biggest myths about #bdsm is how some believe it is a signal of mental illness. So being the nerd that I am, I researched it and here is what I found. I know this is over on IG but what I found would not fit a post here.👇
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September 3, 2026 at 1:05 PM
One of the biggest myths about #bdsm is how some believe it is a signal of mental illness. So being the nerd that I am, I researched it and here is what I found. I know this is over on IG but what I found would not fit a post here.👇
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Drop does not check anyone's role in #bdsm before it hits.
Everyone rides the same chemical surge during a scene & they come down from it through those chemicals being withdrawn afterward.
Not everyone "crashes" but drop happens, regardless role.
This is one of the reasons aftercare matters.
Everyone rides the same chemical surge during a scene & they come down from it through those chemicals being withdrawn afterward.
Not everyone "crashes" but drop happens, regardless role.
This is one of the reasons aftercare matters.
September 2, 2026 at 12:18 PM
Drop does not check anyone's role in #bdsm before it hits.
Everyone rides the same chemical surge during a scene & they come down from it through those chemicals being withdrawn afterward.
Not everyone "crashes" but drop happens, regardless role.
This is one of the reasons aftercare matters.
Everyone rides the same chemical surge during a scene & they come down from it through those chemicals being withdrawn afterward.
Not everyone "crashes" but drop happens, regardless role.
This is one of the reasons aftercare matters.
What is the most asked question in #BDSM?
It’s not:
- Am I dominant or submissive?
- What should I learn?
- Is it safe?
Find out the answer and the question in the new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper #podcast.👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
It’s not:
- Am I dominant or submissive?
- What should I learn?
- Is it safe?
Find out the answer and the question in the new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper #podcast.👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
The Official Home Of The Chatting With The Lightkeeper Podcast
The Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast for over five years continues to explore the world of BDSM, D/S, and kink.
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com
September 1, 2026 at 1:29 PM
What is the most asked question in #BDSM?
It’s not:
- Am I dominant or submissive?
- What should I learn?
- Is it safe?
Find out the answer and the question in the new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper #podcast.👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
It’s not:
- Am I dominant or submissive?
- What should I learn?
- Is it safe?
Find out the answer and the question in the new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper #podcast.👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/your-ultimat...
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August 31, 2026 at 11:16 AM
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August 28, 2026 at 12:11 PM
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Do you believe a dominant must be:
- Older than the submissive
- Wealthier than the submissive
- In better physical shape than the submissive
- None of these matter
Think these are odd requirements? Find why it matters👇
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- Older than the submissive
- Wealthier than the submissive
- In better physical shape than the submissive
- None of these matter
Think these are odd requirements? Find why it matters👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/alpha-male-r...
Alpha Males' Toxic Dominant Traits: 3 Fake Dom Red Flags - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
They believe that submissive means WOMAN. And dominant means MAN (with a fat wallet). NEXT: They buy into or create alpha bro crap like this: • Be in better shape than her • Be measurably wealthier th...
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August 24, 2026 at 10:57 AM
Do you believe a dominant must be:
- Older than the submissive
- Wealthier than the submissive
- In better physical shape than the submissive
- None of these matter
Think these are odd requirements? Find why it matters👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/alpha-male-r...
- Older than the submissive
- Wealthier than the submissive
- In better physical shape than the submissive
- None of these matter
Think these are odd requirements? Find why it matters👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/alpha-male-r...
What are the fifteen most repeated errors in BDSM/kink?
These missteps are not just made by those who are mint in box but also by those who can’t remember where the box is.
I researched to find the fifteen most common errors and some simple tips to keep them from happening to you.
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These missteps are not just made by those who are mint in box but also by those who can’t remember where the box is.
I researched to find the fifteen most common errors and some simple tips to keep them from happening to you.
bit.ly/4xOhPVV
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The Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast for over five years continues to explore the world of BDSM, D/S, and kink.
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August 18, 2026 at 9:36 PM
What are the fifteen most repeated errors in BDSM/kink?
These missteps are not just made by those who are mint in box but also by those who can’t remember where the box is.
I researched to find the fifteen most common errors and some simple tips to keep them from happening to you.
bit.ly/4xOhPVV
These missteps are not just made by those who are mint in box but also by those who can’t remember where the box is.
I researched to find the fifteen most common errors and some simple tips to keep them from happening to you.
bit.ly/4xOhPVV
August 17, 2026 at 10:45 AM
How did a bestselling horror author impact D/S?
Find out in this week’s Fetish Friday
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Find out in this week’s Fetish Friday
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The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty- Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Before Fifty Shades, there was The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty. How Anne Rice's 1983 novel, written as A. N. Roquelaure, made D/S visible.
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August 14, 2026 at 11:22 AM
How did a bestselling horror author impact D/S?
Find out in this week’s Fetish Friday
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Find out in this week’s Fetish Friday
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Physical and romantic attraction are not always the same.
Most treat them like they are. Do they change?
Find out in the Monday Minute👇
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Most treat them like they are. Do they change?
Find out in the Monday Minute👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/orientation-...
Sexual Orientation vs. Romantic Orientation: What Is the Difference? - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Sexual orientation and romantic orientation are not the same thing. Learn the split attraction model and whether attraction can shift over a lifetime.
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August 10, 2026 at 12:13 PM
Physical and romantic attraction are not always the same.
Most treat them like they are. Do they change?
Find out in the Monday Minute👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/orientation-...
Most treat them like they are. Do they change?
Find out in the Monday Minute👇
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/orientation-...
The Leatherman's Handbook from 1972 sounds like a book with a limited audience.
So why should you care about it?
Find out in this Friday's article:
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So why should you care about it?
Find out in this Friday's article:
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/handbook-fet...
The Leatherman's Handbook Explained: The BDSM History Behind the 1972 Leather Classic - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
This Fetish Friday explores why Larry Townsend's The Leatherman's Handbook remains a foundational text in leather and BDSM history, and how its influence still echoes today.
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August 7, 2026 at 12:21 PM
The Leatherman's Handbook from 1972 sounds like a book with a limited audience.
So why should you care about it?
Find out in this Friday's article:
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/handbook-fet...
So why should you care about it?
Find out in this Friday's article:
www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/handbook-fet...
Today's earworm. I never would have thought Prince and bluegrass go together but wow!
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Greenwood Rye - Raspberry Beret (Bluegrass Cover)
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August 6, 2026 at 5:11 PM
Today's earworm. I never would have thought Prince and bluegrass go together but wow!
youtube.com/watch?v=xM6P...
youtube.com/watch?v=xM6P...