Andy
@the-haven.co
Exploring the intersection of high sensitivity, creativity, and the cultures around us
- https://the-haven.co (my personal/music profile: bsky.app/profile/andymort.com)
- https://the-haven.co (my personal/music profile: bsky.app/profile/andymort.com)
There is something beautiful about spending time with people you don't need to pretend or perform around.
September 14, 2026 at 12:34 PM
There is something beautiful about spending time with people you don't need to pretend or perform around.
Sometimes things don't work out. The book doesn't get finished, let alone published. But it is worth it anyway. Why?
September 13, 2026 at 12:13 PM
Sometimes things don't work out. The book doesn't get finished, let alone published. But it is worth it anyway. Why?
I do it because I love it. Everything else is gravy.
September 12, 2026 at 7:08 AM
I do it because I love it. Everything else is gravy.
Survivorship bias gives us a rather skewed impression of the link between working hard and success
September 11, 2026 at 4:27 PM
Survivorship bias gives us a rather skewed impression of the link between working hard and success
When a hobby, creative pursuit, etc. becomes monetised, it can significantly change our relationship with it. Not to say we shouldn't, just that we should do it with our eyes open to how it might change how we feel about it.
September 10, 2026 at 4:28 PM
When a hobby, creative pursuit, etc. becomes monetised, it can significantly change our relationship with it. Not to say we shouldn't, just that we should do it with our eyes open to how it might change how we feel about it.
We can spend so long trying to find the right answer that we never stop to ask whether we're solving the right problem.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
September 10, 2026 at 12:36 PM
We can spend so long trying to find the right answer that we never stop to ask whether we're solving the right problem.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
I generally prefer failure stories to success stories.
September 9, 2026 at 5:54 PM
I generally prefer failure stories to success stories.
There’s something particularly lonely about being told your stuckness must be a mindset problem. If the problem is entirely inside you, it’s easy to assume the solution must be too. It’s a good marketing setup, but that logic can have concerning implications.
September 9, 2026 at 12:14 PM
There’s something particularly lonely about being told your stuckness must be a mindset problem. If the problem is entirely inside you, it’s easy to assume the solution must be too. It’s a good marketing setup, but that logic can have concerning implications.
Stuckness doesn't happen in a vacuum. Inner resistance usually has an external context. That said, a vacuum is probably quite hard to get out of.
September 8, 2026 at 8:10 PM
Stuckness doesn't happen in a vacuum. Inner resistance usually has an external context. That said, a vacuum is probably quite hard to get out of.
Why do you bother doing what you do?
September 8, 2026 at 7:54 PM
Why do you bother doing what you do?
Perhaps, we would have thought of something much better and more “us” if we had been patient and given ourselves time to grapple with the block.
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
August 30, 2026 at 8:11 AM
Perhaps, we would have thought of something much better and more “us” if we had been patient and given ourselves time to grapple with the block.
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
Some of us carry an old unmet ambition for so long that it becomes background noise.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
August 28, 2026 at 9:54 AM
Some of us carry an old unmet ambition for so long that it becomes background noise.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
By intervening early with generative AI before we have taken the opportunity to grapple with a block, we deprive ourselves of that bittersweet joy of finding something that comes to life THROUGH US.
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
August 15, 2026 at 7:55 AM
By intervening early with generative AI before we have taken the opportunity to grapple with a block, we deprive ourselves of that bittersweet joy of finding something that comes to life THROUGH US.
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
“If you don’t know what the song is going to sound like before you hear it, then you haven’t written the song.” - Fil Henley
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
August 10, 2026 at 9:28 AM
“If you don’t know what the song is going to sound like before you hear it, then you haven’t written the song.” - Fil Henley
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
August 9, 2026 at 4:55 PM
Human creativity emerges through the energy generated by those moments of friction, uncertainty, and obstacle.
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
August 7, 2026 at 12:41 PM
Human creativity emerges through the energy generated by those moments of friction, uncertainty, and obstacle.
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
https://the-haven.co/losing-ourselves-in-the-ai-mirror/
This began as a painted map I made for myself one weekend when I needed somewhere to pause and notice what was really keeping me stuck.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
July 31, 2026 at 9:10 AM
This began as a painted map I made for myself one weekend when I needed somewhere to pause and notice what was really keeping me stuck.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
What are we willing to tolerate? What are we helping to amplify? How are we equipping and rewarding the cries of wolf?
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
July 24, 2026 at 9:25 AM
What are we willing to tolerate? What are we helping to amplify? How are we equipping and rewarding the cries of wolf?
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
Not every journal session needs to be a deep dive into self-examination.
Some days become that for me, but only because most days aren't.
https://the-haven.co/four-questions-that-shape-my-journaling-practice/
Some days become that for me, but only because most days aren't.
https://the-haven.co/four-questions-that-shape-my-journaling-practice/
July 22, 2026 at 5:05 PM
Not every journal session needs to be a deep dive into self-examination.
Some days become that for me, but only because most days aren't.
https://the-haven.co/four-questions-that-shape-my-journaling-practice/
Some days become that for me, but only because most days aren't.
https://the-haven.co/four-questions-that-shape-my-journaling-practice/
The idea of a secret runs through the history of self-help. There is always some missing piece, some hidden principle that, once understood and applied, will change everything.
https://the-haven.co/strangest-secret/
https://the-haven.co/strangest-secret/
July 19, 2026 at 12:58 PM
The idea of a secret runs through the history of self-help. There is always some missing piece, some hidden principle that, once understood and applied, will change everything.
https://the-haven.co/strangest-secret/
https://the-haven.co/strangest-secret/
Peale built on the New Thought tradition, using Bible verses to support the law of attraction he proposes, driven by a god who “rates you according to the size of your prayers”, and rewards you if you dream big and visualis...
https://the-haven.co/power-of-positive-thinking-and-prosperity-deception/
https://the-haven.co/power-of-positive-thinking-and-prosperity-deception/
July 17, 2026 at 4:38 PM
Peale built on the New Thought tradition, using Bible verses to support the law of attraction he proposes, driven by a god who “rates you according to the size of your prayers”, and rewards you if you dream big and visualis...
https://the-haven.co/power-of-positive-thinking-and-prosperity-deception/
https://the-haven.co/power-of-positive-thinking-and-prosperity-deception/
Choosing one can feel like losing the others. So we might stay stuck between every possibility.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
July 16, 2026 at 9:40 AM
Choosing one can feel like losing the others. So we might stay stuck between every possibility.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
There are times when we get stuck on a choice because our options feel off. Rather than searching for more, different, and better options, it might be worth first asking why.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
July 11, 2026 at 7:01 AM
There are times when we get stuck on a choice because our options feel off. Rather than searching for more, different, and better options, it might be worth first asking why.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
Storytelling may be the fastest way to build trust, but it can also be the fastest way to destroy it.
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
July 9, 2026 at 2:41 PM
Storytelling may be the fastest way to build trust, but it can also be the fastest way to destroy it.
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
https://the-haven.co/storytelling-frameworks-exploit-trust/
Sometimes what we might think of as resistance isn't an obstacle to overcome but something inside us trying to be heard.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
July 8, 2026 at 6:08 PM
Sometimes what we might think of as resistance isn't an obstacle to overcome but something inside us trying to be heard.
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/
https://the-haven.co/map-of-stuckness-and-possibility/