Virginia Duan | 段怡宣 (she/her)
@themandarinmama.bsky.social
Writer | Author of K-pop inspired women's fiction & fantasy | Entertainment Editor @mochimagofficial | @braznazn.bsky.social podcast co-host | BTS stan | [email protected] | same @ on 🧵| mandarinmama.com
I’m now buy-eyeglass-chains-years-old
June 12, 2026 at 6:37 PM
I’m now buy-eyeglass-chains-years-old
People don't realize how much effort it is to notice and NOT COMMENT on other people's incompetence. They don't appreciate enough that I could be meaner. A LOT MEANER.
June 8, 2026 at 5:21 PM
People don't realize how much effort it is to notice and NOT COMMENT on other people's incompetence. They don't appreciate enough that I could be meaner. A LOT MEANER.
Day 508 of Chaotic Joy (current edition)
My joy: got some studying in!! YAY KOREAN!
My challenge: still surrounded by a tiny, wiggly toddler
My life: also, why is it that my house constantly runs out of food? do I house locusts?
How was your Wednesday?
My joy: got some studying in!! YAY KOREAN!
My challenge: still surrounded by a tiny, wiggly toddler
My life: also, why is it that my house constantly runs out of food? do I house locusts?
How was your Wednesday?
April 16, 2026 at 5:37 AM
Day 508 of Chaotic Joy (current edition)
My joy: got some studying in!! YAY KOREAN!
My challenge: still surrounded by a tiny, wiggly toddler
My life: also, why is it that my house constantly runs out of food? do I house locusts?
How was your Wednesday?
My joy: got some studying in!! YAY KOREAN!
My challenge: still surrounded by a tiny, wiggly toddler
My life: also, why is it that my house constantly runs out of food? do I house locusts?
How was your Wednesday?
Day 507 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: listening to podcasts
My challenge: couldn't can for the life of me. Was just a lump.
My life: could be worse!
How was your Tuesday?
My joy: listening to podcasts
My challenge: couldn't can for the life of me. Was just a lump.
My life: could be worse!
How was your Tuesday?
April 16, 2026 at 1:52 AM
Day 507 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: listening to podcasts
My challenge: couldn't can for the life of me. Was just a lump.
My life: could be worse!
How was your Tuesday?
My joy: listening to podcasts
My challenge: couldn't can for the life of me. Was just a lump.
My life: could be worse!
How was your Tuesday?
Day 506 of Chaotic Joy
My Joy: Hung out with an old friend. I’ve known him almost 30 years!!
My challenge: I need to review my Korean
My Life: It’s a Good Life and I’m so sleepy
How was your Monday?
My Joy: Hung out with an old friend. I’ve known him almost 30 years!!
My challenge: I need to review my Korean
My Life: It’s a Good Life and I’m so sleepy
How was your Monday?
April 14, 2026 at 5:36 AM
Day 506 of Chaotic Joy
My Joy: Hung out with an old friend. I’ve known him almost 30 years!!
My challenge: I need to review my Korean
My Life: It’s a Good Life and I’m so sleepy
How was your Monday?
My Joy: Hung out with an old friend. I’ve known him almost 30 years!!
My challenge: I need to review my Korean
My Life: It’s a Good Life and I’m so sleepy
How was your Monday?
Day 505 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: making progress on Book 3 of my Her Multiverse
My challenge: still not fast enough but I'll take it
My life: thank goodness for meds and tea
How was your Sunday?
My joy: making progress on Book 3 of my Her Multiverse
My challenge: still not fast enough but I'll take it
My life: thank goodness for meds and tea
How was your Sunday?
April 13, 2026 at 6:14 AM
Day 505 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: making progress on Book 3 of my Her Multiverse
My challenge: still not fast enough but I'll take it
My life: thank goodness for meds and tea
How was your Sunday?
My joy: making progress on Book 3 of my Her Multiverse
My challenge: still not fast enough but I'll take it
My life: thank goodness for meds and tea
How was your Sunday?
Here's my latest article interviewing Bao Nguyen, the director of the Netflix BTS doc: www.mochimag.com/entertainmen...
“BTS: The Return” Documents an Identity Crisis, Not a Comeback - Mochi Magazine
With a distinctly Asian American lens, director Bao Nguyen documents K-pop sensation BTS grappling with a question that has no easy answer: How Korean is Korean enough?
www.mochimag.com
April 13, 2026 at 2:50 AM
Here's my latest article interviewing Bao Nguyen, the director of the Netflix BTS doc: www.mochimag.com/entertainmen...
Day 504 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got to tell my Biggest Baby that I was proud of him
My challenge: so awake yet so sleepy
My life: grateful for friends who are ok with last minute plans to hang out and work in cafes open late. like college but better.
How was your Saturday?
My joy: got to tell my Biggest Baby that I was proud of him
My challenge: so awake yet so sleepy
My life: grateful for friends who are ok with last minute plans to hang out and work in cafes open late. like college but better.
How was your Saturday?
April 12, 2026 at 8:32 AM
Day 504 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got to tell my Biggest Baby that I was proud of him
My challenge: so awake yet so sleepy
My life: grateful for friends who are ok with last minute plans to hang out and work in cafes open late. like college but better.
How was your Saturday?
My joy: got to tell my Biggest Baby that I was proud of him
My challenge: so awake yet so sleepy
My life: grateful for friends who are ok with last minute plans to hang out and work in cafes open late. like college but better.
How was your Saturday?
Day 503 of Chaotic Joy (current edition)
My joy: reading exquisite angst
My challenge: the way I wish I could write it
My life: sigh. So many appointments for my kiddos
How was your Friday?
My joy: reading exquisite angst
My challenge: the way I wish I could write it
My life: sigh. So many appointments for my kiddos
How was your Friday?
April 11, 2026 at 6:39 AM
Day 503 of Chaotic Joy (current edition)
My joy: reading exquisite angst
My challenge: the way I wish I could write it
My life: sigh. So many appointments for my kiddos
How was your Friday?
My joy: reading exquisite angst
My challenge: the way I wish I could write it
My life: sigh. So many appointments for my kiddos
How was your Friday?
Day 490-502 of Chaotic Joy (so late it's on time edition)
My joy: BTS BTS BTS OMG NOTHING ELSE
My challenge: IBID bc why do anything else?
My life: thank goodness for spring break and my super understanding children and husband
How were your last 2 weeks?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS OMG NOTHING ELSE
My challenge: IBID bc why do anything else?
My life: thank goodness for spring break and my super understanding children and husband
How were your last 2 weeks?
April 10, 2026 at 6:03 PM
Day 490-502 of Chaotic Joy (so late it's on time edition)
My joy: BTS BTS BTS OMG NOTHING ELSE
My challenge: IBID bc why do anything else?
My life: thank goodness for spring break and my super understanding children and husband
How were your last 2 weeks?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS OMG NOTHING ELSE
My challenge: IBID bc why do anything else?
My life: thank goodness for spring break and my super understanding children and husband
How were your last 2 weeks?
Day 489 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: hanging out with friends and recording reactions
My challenge: OMG I THINK I FORGOT HOW TO WRITE
My life: also, WHY IS NATURE ATTACKING ME AND MY CHILDREN A;DFLKJADSKLFJASKDFJKDAS
How was your Friday?
My joy: hanging out with friends and recording reactions
My challenge: OMG I THINK I FORGOT HOW TO WRITE
My life: also, WHY IS NATURE ATTACKING ME AND MY CHILDREN A;DFLKJADSKLFJASKDFJKDAS
How was your Friday?
March 28, 2026 at 7:03 AM
Day 489 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: hanging out with friends and recording reactions
My challenge: OMG I THINK I FORGOT HOW TO WRITE
My life: also, WHY IS NATURE ATTACKING ME AND MY CHILDREN A;DFLKJADSKLFJASKDFJKDAS
How was your Friday?
My joy: hanging out with friends and recording reactions
My challenge: OMG I THINK I FORGOT HOW TO WRITE
My life: also, WHY IS NATURE ATTACKING ME AND MY CHILDREN A;DFLKJADSKLFJASKDFJKDAS
How was your Friday?
Day 487-488 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: yeah yeah yeah still BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: baby girl will need speech therapy (TT_TT)
My life: so much to doooooo and so little attn span!!
How were your last two days?
My joy: yeah yeah yeah still BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: baby girl will need speech therapy (TT_TT)
My life: so much to doooooo and so little attn span!!
How were your last two days?
March 27, 2026 at 5:19 AM
Day 487-488 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: yeah yeah yeah still BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: baby girl will need speech therapy (TT_TT)
My life: so much to doooooo and so little attn span!!
How were your last two days?
My joy: yeah yeah yeah still BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: baby girl will need speech therapy (TT_TT)
My life: so much to doooooo and so little attn span!!
How were your last two days?
Day 486 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: omg so much to dooooooo
My life: also I really need to remember to take my meds bc WHO KNEW THEY WERE DOING SHIT??
How was your day?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: omg so much to dooooooo
My life: also I really need to remember to take my meds bc WHO KNEW THEY WERE DOING SHIT??
How was your day?
March 25, 2026 at 5:41 AM
Day 486 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: omg so much to dooooooo
My life: also I really need to remember to take my meds bc WHO KNEW THEY WERE DOING SHIT??
How was your day?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: omg so much to dooooooo
My life: also I really need to remember to take my meds bc WHO KNEW THEY WERE DOING SHIT??
How was your day?
Day 482-485 of Chaotic Joy (condensed version)
My joy: BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS
Also - my friend throwing a listening party/concert at my house
My challenge: BTS BTS BTS WHAT ELSE IS THERE IN LIFE
My life: WHERE BTS BTS BTS
How were past few days?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS
Also - my friend throwing a listening party/concert at my house
My challenge: BTS BTS BTS WHAT ELSE IS THERE IN LIFE
My life: WHERE BTS BTS BTS
How were past few days?
March 24, 2026 at 1:24 AM
Day 482-485 of Chaotic Joy (condensed version)
My joy: BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS
Also - my friend throwing a listening party/concert at my house
My challenge: BTS BTS BTS WHAT ELSE IS THERE IN LIFE
My life: WHERE BTS BTS BTS
How were past few days?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS BTS
Also - my friend throwing a listening party/concert at my house
My challenge: BTS BTS BTS WHAT ELSE IS THERE IN LIFE
My life: WHERE BTS BTS BTS
How were past few days?
Day 481 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: learning a new video editing software boooooo
My life: NO SERIOUSLY THAT SUCKS WHAT IN THE WAHT BOOOOOOO
How was your Thursday?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: learning a new video editing software boooooo
My life: NO SERIOUSLY THAT SUCKS WHAT IN THE WAHT BOOOOOOO
How was your Thursday?
March 21, 2026 at 1:11 AM
Day 481 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: learning a new video editing software boooooo
My life: NO SERIOUSLY THAT SUCKS WHAT IN THE WAHT BOOOOOOO
How was your Thursday?
My joy: BTS BTS BTS
My challenge: learning a new video editing software boooooo
My life: NO SERIOUSLY THAT SUCKS WHAT IN THE WAHT BOOOOOOO
How was your Thursday?
Day 480 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: hung out with my toddler outside in the cooling evening
My challenge: idk what to do with myself rn
My life: just feel full of love from my friends and children
How was your day?
My joy: hung out with my toddler outside in the cooling evening
My challenge: idk what to do with myself rn
My life: just feel full of love from my friends and children
How was your day?
March 19, 2026 at 5:11 AM
Day 480 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: hung out with my toddler outside in the cooling evening
My challenge: idk what to do with myself rn
My life: just feel full of love from my friends and children
How was your day?
My joy: hung out with my toddler outside in the cooling evening
My challenge: idk what to do with myself rn
My life: just feel full of love from my friends and children
How was your day?
Day 479 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got a lot of things done!
My challenge: watched netflix's "The Manosphere" documentary was so utterly depressing. like i want to immediately cleanse and check the watch history of all my boys
My life: i'm really excited about the next week though!!
How are you?
My joy: got a lot of things done!
My challenge: watched netflix's "The Manosphere" documentary was so utterly depressing. like i want to immediately cleanse and check the watch history of all my boys
My life: i'm really excited about the next week though!!
How are you?
March 18, 2026 at 5:34 AM
Day 479 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got a lot of things done!
My challenge: watched netflix's "The Manosphere" documentary was so utterly depressing. like i want to immediately cleanse and check the watch history of all my boys
My life: i'm really excited about the next week though!!
How are you?
My joy: got a lot of things done!
My challenge: watched netflix's "The Manosphere" documentary was so utterly depressing. like i want to immediately cleanse and check the watch history of all my boys
My life: i'm really excited about the next week though!!
How are you?
Day 478 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: idek but children can be great
My challenge: sigh. budget shit again.
My life: sometimes, it sucks to adult. like, it seems ridiculous to cut back before anything bad has happened, but ISN'T THAT WHEN YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO?
How as your Monday?
My joy: idek but children can be great
My challenge: sigh. budget shit again.
My life: sometimes, it sucks to adult. like, it seems ridiculous to cut back before anything bad has happened, but ISN'T THAT WHEN YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO?
How as your Monday?
March 17, 2026 at 6:22 AM
Day 478 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: idek but children can be great
My challenge: sigh. budget shit again.
My life: sometimes, it sucks to adult. like, it seems ridiculous to cut back before anything bad has happened, but ISN'T THAT WHEN YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO?
How as your Monday?
My joy: idek but children can be great
My challenge: sigh. budget shit again.
My life: sometimes, it sucks to adult. like, it seems ridiculous to cut back before anything bad has happened, but ISN'T THAT WHEN YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO?
How as your Monday?
Day 477 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: had a fun bubble bath with the toddler and playing with her. OH! And Taiwanese Am Memoir Book Club!
My challenge: still working on that budget sobsobsob
My life: i love the way my older kids love their babiest baby
How was your Sunday?
My joy: had a fun bubble bath with the toddler and playing with her. OH! And Taiwanese Am Memoir Book Club!
My challenge: still working on that budget sobsobsob
My life: i love the way my older kids love their babiest baby
How was your Sunday?
March 16, 2026 at 5:40 AM
Day 477 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: had a fun bubble bath with the toddler and playing with her. OH! And Taiwanese Am Memoir Book Club!
My challenge: still working on that budget sobsobsob
My life: i love the way my older kids love their babiest baby
How was your Sunday?
My joy: had a fun bubble bath with the toddler and playing with her. OH! And Taiwanese Am Memoir Book Club!
My challenge: still working on that budget sobsobsob
My life: i love the way my older kids love their babiest baby
How was your Sunday?
Day 476 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: so little to do today yay
My challenge: well, except for working on our budget sobsobsob
My life: and also why doesn't threads work on my computer?? (yes, i've cleared the cache, changed settings, etc. it's been months)
How was your Saturday?
My joy: so little to do today yay
My challenge: well, except for working on our budget sobsobsob
My life: and also why doesn't threads work on my computer?? (yes, i've cleared the cache, changed settings, etc. it's been months)
How was your Saturday?
March 15, 2026 at 6:18 AM
Day 476 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: so little to do today yay
My challenge: well, except for working on our budget sobsobsob
My life: and also why doesn't threads work on my computer?? (yes, i've cleared the cache, changed settings, etc. it's been months)
How was your Saturday?
My joy: so little to do today yay
My challenge: well, except for working on our budget sobsobsob
My life: and also why doesn't threads work on my computer?? (yes, i've cleared the cache, changed settings, etc. it's been months)
How was your Saturday?
Day 475 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: hanging out and coworking with two friends
My challenge: HANGING OUTTTTT
My life: got in a lot of Korean practice/hw today!!
How was your Friday?
My joy: hanging out and coworking with two friends
My challenge: HANGING OUTTTTT
My life: got in a lot of Korean practice/hw today!!
How was your Friday?
March 14, 2026 at 6:14 AM
Day 475 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: hanging out and coworking with two friends
My challenge: HANGING OUTTTTT
My life: got in a lot of Korean practice/hw today!!
How was your Friday?
My joy: hanging out and coworking with two friends
My challenge: HANGING OUTTTTT
My life: got in a lot of Korean practice/hw today!!
How was your Friday?
Day 474 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: COSTCOOOOOOOOOOO
My challenge: prepping food after; so tired
My life: but PICKLE CHIPS YESSSSSSS
How was your Thursday?
My joy: COSTCOOOOOOOOOOO
My challenge: prepping food after; so tired
My life: but PICKLE CHIPS YESSSSSSS
How was your Thursday?
March 13, 2026 at 4:08 AM
Day 474 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: COSTCOOOOOOOOOOO
My challenge: prepping food after; so tired
My life: but PICKLE CHIPS YESSSSSSS
How was your Thursday?
My joy: COSTCOOOOOOOOOOO
My challenge: prepping food after; so tired
My life: but PICKLE CHIPS YESSSSSSS
How was your Thursday?
Day 473 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: no barfs!
My challenge: still so weak and tired
My life: again, the kids are clutch - but 2 are down sick
How was your Wednesday?
My joy: no barfs!
My challenge: still so weak and tired
My life: again, the kids are clutch - but 2 are down sick
How was your Wednesday?
March 13, 2026 at 4:08 AM
Day 473 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: no barfs!
My challenge: still so weak and tired
My life: again, the kids are clutch - but 2 are down sick
How was your Wednesday?
My joy: no barfs!
My challenge: still so weak and tired
My life: again, the kids are clutch - but 2 are down sick
How was your Wednesday?
Day 472 of Chaotic Joy (late late edition)
My joy: grateful my kids are old enough to help care for me and the toddler when i'm down
My challenge: nonstop barfinggggg
My life: also it's too hot but I was in bed
How was your Tuesday?
My joy: grateful my kids are old enough to help care for me and the toddler when i'm down
My challenge: nonstop barfinggggg
My life: also it's too hot but I was in bed
How was your Tuesday?
March 13, 2026 at 4:07 AM
Day 472 of Chaotic Joy (late late edition)
My joy: grateful my kids are old enough to help care for me and the toddler when i'm down
My challenge: nonstop barfinggggg
My life: also it's too hot but I was in bed
How was your Tuesday?
My joy: grateful my kids are old enough to help care for me and the toddler when i'm down
My challenge: nonstop barfinggggg
My life: also it's too hot but I was in bed
How was your Tuesday?
Day 471 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: ARIRANG MERCH IS GORGEOUS I WANTS IT
My challenge: forgot to take my snri last night and OMG I'M GOING TO CRAWL OUT OF MY SKIN I MAY DIE
My life: also toddler is sick and miserable
How was your Monday?
My joy: ARIRANG MERCH IS GORGEOUS I WANTS IT
My challenge: forgot to take my snri last night and OMG I'M GOING TO CRAWL OUT OF MY SKIN I MAY DIE
My life: also toddler is sick and miserable
How was your Monday?
March 10, 2026 at 12:46 AM
Day 471 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: ARIRANG MERCH IS GORGEOUS I WANTS IT
My challenge: forgot to take my snri last night and OMG I'M GOING TO CRAWL OUT OF MY SKIN I MAY DIE
My life: also toddler is sick and miserable
How was your Monday?
My joy: ARIRANG MERCH IS GORGEOUS I WANTS IT
My challenge: forgot to take my snri last night and OMG I'M GOING TO CRAWL OUT OF MY SKIN I MAY DIE
My life: also toddler is sick and miserable
How was your Monday?