Your words create your world. In this short clip, Harley Street phobia specialist Christopher Paul Jones reveals how the language you use to describe your fear can either keep you stuck or unlock real change. If you’ve ever said: 👉 “I am anxious” 👉 “I am scared of flying” 👉 “I am terrified of public speaking” ...then this video is for you. Christopher explains how phrases like “I am” and “but” sneakily wire your identity to your anxiety — making it harder to break free. Learn the powerful mindset reframe that turns “I am anxious” into “I *have a pattern of anxious thinking” — and why that subtle shift makes a massive difference. 👣 Start changing your internal script today. 📕 From the author of Face Your Fears and creator of the ICS Method, trusted by clients worldwide — including celebrities, executives, and those with lifelong phobias. 🧠 Want more tools to break through fear? Subscribe and hit the bell 🔔 📘 Face Your Fears – Available wherever books are sold --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hi, I'm Christopher Paul Jones. Now, a lot of the words we use for our problems, maybe our fears, our phobias, our anxiety, can either empower us to change or can keep us stuck. For example, when a lot of people come to me, they often talk about their problems like I am I am anxious, I am phobic. I am fearful. Now I am. Statements often used in affirmations, and they have a lot of power. So when people define it as I am, it's almost like they're linking a behaviour to their identity. Now it doesn't matter how big this problem is, how debilitating it is. A learned pattern of feeling, thinking and emotion linked to something that isn't statistically dangerous. And so when you can define your issue as my pattern of thinking and feeling, rather than I am, it becomes a lot more manageable to solve it. There's then also words we use that stop us having the same power when we're looking to change one of those words would be, but, oh, I'd really like to do this, but anything before but is what you call a negator. My brother once told me that nothing someone says before the word but really counts. But by having the but, it takes the power out of the word. Other words, things like try, as one very famous master once said, Do or do not, there is no try, because try you're not doing and you're not not doing. So when people go, oh yeah, I'll really try and work on this, or I'll really try and do that, odds are they're going to limit themselves. And so listen, next time you're going, Hey, I'm having a party, I'm having a barbecue, and the person goes, Oh, I'll really try and come. They're not coming. Very unlikely. If they say, Try twice, they're definitely not coming. So listen out for these words. The other one is more now I'm going to give you two options. If I was to say to you, Hey, I'd like to be more relaxed, or I'd like to be happier, versus I'd like to be more relaxed, or I'd like to be more happy. Generally, the more takes out the power of that word. So it's a word worth deleting. It doesn't add anything, and it doesn't give you the same confidence or the same empowerment in your mind. Now the reason people often use these negating words is because they don't want to be too confident, or they don't want to be too happy, in case they're disappointed. They don't want to shoot for the moon and and then be let down. But when it comes to our feelings, when it comes to our thoughts, when it comes to our emotions, know that we do them. And so how we think about these things is going to determine how happy we feel, or how stressed we feel, or how able to solve this problem we feel we have. So check in with yourself and notice the word you are using, and not just the language you're saying out loud, but what are you saying in your head. And over the next few days, get used to checking in with yourself, because you'll find how you use these words is going to determine how much you feel until next time. I'm Christopher Paul Jones.