People don’t seem to get that in the beginning with Blitz and Stolas’ “relationship” (if you can call it that) was filled with miscommunication, codependency and both were seeking validation from one another for different reasons. It wasn’t healthy and both had very low self esteem.
November 3, 2026 at 2:43 PM
People don’t seem to get that in the beginning with Blitz and Stolas’ “relationship” (if you can call it that) was filled with miscommunication, codependency and both were seeking validation from one another for different reasons. It wasn’t healthy and both had very low self esteem.
The ‘freaks’ you don’t want interacting would have been the ones commenting like you want. While nice to have comments, it’s important not to tie your self worth to the validation of the internet or get yourself worked up and angry about things out of your control.
October 31, 2026 at 6:19 PM
The ‘freaks’ you don’t want interacting would have been the ones commenting like you want. While nice to have comments, it’s important not to tie your self worth to the validation of the internet or get yourself worked up and angry about things out of your control.
It's more than a tinge. Nihilistic defeatism is one of the biggest ways the crabs keep each other in this bucket. Nothing matters so everything will always suck, so just be your worst self because it'll make you feel better (it won't, but I need the validation of you being stuck here too).
November 2, 2026 at 6:03 PM
It's more than a tinge. Nihilistic defeatism is one of the biggest ways the crabs keep each other in this bucket. Nothing matters so everything will always suck, so just be your worst self because it'll make you feel better (it won't, but I need the validation of you being stuck here too).
Truss, Goodwin, etc. are trying to externalise the insults to their self-esteem. Still having bitter arguments with normal experts who’ve moved on and getting hollow validation from people they secretly don’t respect.
November 2, 2026 at 11:20 PM
Truss, Goodwin, etc. are trying to externalise the insults to their self-esteem. Still having bitter arguments with normal experts who’ve moved on and getting hollow validation from people they secretly don’t respect.
lrp when i stopped getting comments on my fics as much that's when i stopped writing. people really underestimate how far kind comments go for writers, that validation can give anyone the motivation to keep writing their silly self indulgent stories, just knowing there's some audience for it is nice
November 1, 2026 at 8:32 PM
lrp when i stopped getting comments on my fics as much that's when i stopped writing. people really underestimate how far kind comments go for writers, that validation can give anyone the motivation to keep writing their silly self indulgent stories, just knowing there's some audience for it is nice
When you have such low self-esteem...validation from others is important, because that's the only esteem you can get. Yes, it's embarrassing & shameful. But that's me.
November 1, 2026 at 6:53 AM
When you have such low self-esteem...validation from others is important, because that's the only esteem you can get. Yes, it's embarrassing & shameful. But that's me.
I rly like my fit now. It feels appropriate for my personality. It's "Look Daddy, I dressed myself!" in the most reaffirming way possible.
I don't need the validation from anyone anymore, at least for this. I guess this is what self-confidence feels like. And I hope I can apply it everywhere else.
I don't need the validation from anyone anymore, at least for this. I guess this is what self-confidence feels like. And I hope I can apply it everywhere else.
October 29, 2026 at 3:36 PM
I rly like my fit now. It feels appropriate for my personality. It's "Look Daddy, I dressed myself!" in the most reaffirming way possible.
I don't need the validation from anyone anymore, at least for this. I guess this is what self-confidence feels like. And I hope I can apply it everywhere else.
I don't need the validation from anyone anymore, at least for this. I guess this is what self-confidence feels like. And I hope I can apply it everywhere else.
This seems reductive- Napoleon was considered extremely radical at the time. Despite being an emperor, he was a self-crowned emperor, without any validation by blood or by the pope. To the royalists of the time, that made him a dangerous revolutionary.
November 1, 2026 at 1:58 PM
This seems reductive- Napoleon was considered extremely radical at the time. Despite being an emperor, he was a self-crowned emperor, without any validation by blood or by the pope. To the royalists of the time, that made him a dangerous revolutionary.
*video game status effect noise* Oh no! Your SELF ESTEEM is critically low!!
Seek validation from those disappointed in you to recover it before you start taking psychic damage!!
Seek validation from those disappointed in you to recover it before you start taking psychic damage!!
October 31, 2026 at 3:22 AM
*video game status effect noise* Oh no! Your SELF ESTEEM is critically low!!
Seek validation from those disappointed in you to recover it before you start taking psychic damage!!
Seek validation from those disappointed in you to recover it before you start taking psychic damage!!
I still think that UBI, and societal rearrangement of values from {rat-racing and external validation via oppressive views on “other people”} to {self-validation and giving back to society} are required in order for creators to prosper.
Capitalism is a meh system even with patrons. 😑
Capitalism is a meh system even with patrons. 😑
November 2, 2026 at 2:13 PM
I still think that UBI, and societal rearrangement of values from {rat-racing and external validation via oppressive views on “other people”} to {self-validation and giving back to society} are required in order for creators to prosper.
Capitalism is a meh system even with patrons. 😑
Capitalism is a meh system even with patrons. 😑
i think it would work *mostly*, a lot of his paradigm is being a mouth puppet for whoever is closest to him and his need for attention/self-validation.
But he's also greedy from a materialistic standpoint, so certain more socialist-leaning agendas he might balk at even w/o SM pulling strings
But he's also greedy from a materialistic standpoint, so certain more socialist-leaning agendas he might balk at even w/o SM pulling strings
November 3, 2026 at 2:04 PM
i think it would work *mostly*, a lot of his paradigm is being a mouth puppet for whoever is closest to him and his need for attention/self-validation.
But he's also greedy from a materialistic standpoint, so certain more socialist-leaning agendas he might balk at even w/o SM pulling strings
But he's also greedy from a materialistic standpoint, so certain more socialist-leaning agendas he might balk at even w/o SM pulling strings
Self-validation without taking others down should be a universal skill, and yet…
October 29, 2026 at 3:26 PM
Self-validation without taking others down should be a universal skill, and yet…
I think it's related to "weak sense of self" it can be related to borderline personality disorder and narcissism, but also just on its own. But it leads to needing a lot of external validation, which in turn leads to being erratic.
November 3, 2026 at 8:42 AM
I think it's related to "weak sense of self" it can be related to borderline personality disorder and narcissism, but also just on its own. But it leads to needing a lot of external validation, which in turn leads to being erratic.
People wanting their ships to be canonized as a form of validation for their shockingly odd self entitled creative superiority is one of the major wounds that drove this community into being one of the cringiest on the internet.
Role play. Write a fanfic. Like the rest of us rational adults.
Role play. Write a fanfic. Like the rest of us rational adults.
• (Asked about NPC date events) While I understand the request, what if it doesn't align what what you expect a date would look like? I'm not saying anything will happen to a given character, but if they were to leave the story, it would constrain us.
November 1, 2026 at 11:45 PM
People wanting their ships to be canonized as a form of validation for their shockingly odd self entitled creative superiority is one of the major wounds that drove this community into being one of the cringiest on the internet.
Role play. Write a fanfic. Like the rest of us rational adults.
Role play. Write a fanfic. Like the rest of us rational adults.
Second red flag. A huge one. Self validation or low self esteem? Both go hand to hand. She's had problems with this for awhile. She always thought she was ugly but I always told her she wasn't. She was satisfied. I've realized she needs more. That's why she wants friends. She needs self validation.
November 2, 2026 at 3:53 AM
Second red flag. A huge one. Self validation or low self esteem? Both go hand to hand. She's had problems with this for awhile. She always thought she was ugly but I always told her she wasn't. She was satisfied. I've realized she needs more. That's why she wants friends. She needs self validation.
As someone who (probably) has a praise kink and whose self worth relies on professional validation, yes, this hit the spot.
October 30, 2026 at 12:59 AM
As someone who (probably) has a praise kink and whose self worth relies on professional validation, yes, this hit the spot.
Self-worth and independence are key. Stop waiting for someone else's approval or validation — build it from within. Your own validation is the only one that truly matters. #selfworth #independence
November 1, 2026 at 4:56 AM
Self-worth and independence are key. Stop waiting for someone else's approval or validation — build it from within. Your own validation is the only one that truly matters. #selfworth #independence
The joy, peace, understanding, and validation I feel after my endometriosis diagnosis and treatment is very similar to my official #autism and #ADHD diagnoses. I self-identified as AuDHD before my assessments and was quite sure I had #endometriosis before the exploratory laparoscopy. I know my body!
October 30, 2026 at 1:40 PM
The joy, peace, understanding, and validation I feel after my endometriosis diagnosis and treatment is very similar to my official #autism and #ADHD diagnoses. I self-identified as AuDHD before my assessments and was quite sure I had #endometriosis before the exploratory laparoscopy. I know my body!
About actually doing the job. It was about access to $$,power & the validation those unworthy w/low self esteem crave like a drug.
November 2, 2026 at 9:22 PM
About actually doing the job. It was about access to $$,power & the validation those unworthy w/low self esteem crave like a drug.
Cool - got some money refunded for a game so I used that to send some messages and really feel some peace and learning about self-compassion anchors and self-validation has helped so much
November 2, 2026 at 1:21 AM
Cool - got some money refunded for a game so I used that to send some messages and really feel some peace and learning about self-compassion anchors and self-validation has helped so much
Self-validation is unimpeachable.
October 29, 2026 at 2:08 PM
Self-validation is unimpeachable.
Oh I know it being in the game since i was 17 one way or another, just, my it support vocation bred a 'i like helping people' self validation that is driving me nuts not doing on top of it being slow and barely responsive. In 2023, it was 3 weeks from a contract end to a new job where everyone was
October 30, 2026 at 5:42 AM
Oh I know it being in the game since i was 17 one way or another, just, my it support vocation bred a 'i like helping people' self validation that is driving me nuts not doing on top of it being slow and barely responsive. In 2023, it was 3 weeks from a contract end to a new job where everyone was
People have been asking "what's the fix for an emotionally starved showman with validation issues?" for years and it turns out the answer is "a completely self-assured jerk who has no place to put his abundance of feelings after estrangement"
October 30, 2026 at 1:17 PM
People have been asking "what's the fix for an emotionally starved showman with validation issues?" for years and it turns out the answer is "a completely self-assured jerk who has no place to put his abundance of feelings after estrangement"