All the talk of women's overfunctioning papers over the real issue: straight men are underfunctioning on a grand scale and their wives pay the price katemanne.substack.com/p/when-husba...
When Husbands Underfunction
Women’s heavy load equals men’s lightness
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September 19, 2026 at 12:43 PM
All the talk of women's overfunctioning papers over the real issue: straight men are underfunctioning on a grand scale and their wives pay the price katemanne.substack.com/p/when-husba...
I’m on my way back to Seattle. Not a bad week. Stepped back from underfunctioning.
March 29, 2025 at 2:47 AM
I’m on my way back to Seattle. Not a bad week. Stepped back from underfunctioning.
A day of migraine, 2.5 mg of valium and underfunctioning. I’ll be taking to my bed once I eat lunch.
July 18, 2024 at 6:50 PM
A day of migraine, 2.5 mg of valium and underfunctioning. I’ll be taking to my bed once I eat lunch.
I would love to see a serious research project on the amount of money that has been spent on malfunctioning, underfunctioning, never-actually-functioned BigTech projects adopted too early, too late, etc. by governments and non-profits, and following where that money went.
NYC faces a $8-12B budget deficit. The Mamdani admin is looking for budget savings, including scrapping the procurement of Eric Adams' disastrous NYC Chatbot--the one that advised breaking laws and violating rights. www.politico.com/newsletters/...
Zohran screams. Hochul Shrugs.
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January 29, 2026 at 1:14 AM
I would love to see a serious research project on the amount of money that has been spent on malfunctioning, underfunctioning, never-actually-functioned BigTech projects adopted too early, too late, etc. by governments and non-profits, and following where that money went.
If you’re constantly taking care of everyone else, you may be neglecting yourself in ways you don’t even notice.
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #Overfunctioning #Underfunctioning #PeoplePleasing #SelfNeglect #EmotionalExhaustion #CaregiverBurnout
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #Overfunctioning #Underfunctioning #PeoplePleasing #SelfNeglect #EmotionalExhaustion #CaregiverBurnout
September 25, 2026 at 2:06 PM
If you’re constantly taking care of everyone else, you may be neglecting yourself in ways you don’t even notice.
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #Overfunctioning #Underfunctioning #PeoplePleasing #SelfNeglect #EmotionalExhaustion #CaregiverBurnout
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #Overfunctioning #Underfunctioning #PeoplePleasing #SelfNeglect #EmotionalExhaustion #CaregiverBurnout
The theory is that if you stop overfunctioning, they will stop underfunctioning. It's worth a shot.
July 28, 2024 at 11:26 PM
The theory is that if you stop overfunctioning, they will stop underfunctioning. It's worth a shot.
Tipps wie „Du musst aufhören, auszugleichen, was Dein Mann ignoriert“, ignorieren, dass es ein Kind gibt, das dann mehr leidet. Eine Over-/Underfunctioning Dynamik lässt sich nicht einfach auflösen ohne dass etwas Negatives mit dem Kind passiert. Und wenn doch, nicht schnell genug.
February 18, 2026 at 6:06 AM
Tipps wie „Du musst aufhören, auszugleichen, was Dein Mann ignoriert“, ignorieren, dass es ein Kind gibt, das dann mehr leidet. Eine Over-/Underfunctioning Dynamik lässt sich nicht einfach auflösen ohne dass etwas Negatives mit dem Kind passiert. Und wenn doch, nicht schnell genug.
Виявляється для «побутових інвалідів» давно є термін в теорії сімейних систем - underfunctioning
May 20, 2025 at 8:23 PM
Виявляється для «побутових інвалідів» давно є термін в теорії сімейних систем - underfunctioning
How underfunctioning men stay in power: we credit them for their mediocrity.
October 8, 2025 at 4:13 PM
How underfunctioning men stay in power: we credit them for their mediocrity.
Who the hell wants overpriced, underfunctioning #F-35Jets that have a #fireign-controlled #KillSwitch??
November 21, 2025 at 7:51 PM
Who the hell wants overpriced, underfunctioning #F-35Jets that have a #fireign-controlled #KillSwitch??
Whether it's a bad marriage or dangerous politics, we need to stop taking responsibility for the other's underfunctioning. We don't need to abandon compassion but we do need to recognize that they're going to change on their own or not at all.
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June 6, 2025 at 5:13 PM
Whether it's a bad marriage or dangerous politics, we need to stop taking responsibility for the other's underfunctioning. We don't need to abandon compassion but we do need to recognize that they're going to change on their own or not at all.
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Hey all, there’s no toxins to draw out of your kids.
Or yourselves.
The only toxicities in your life are social media, political pundits, and underfunctioning men.
Or yourselves.
The only toxicities in your life are social media, political pundits, and underfunctioning men.
Under-the-weather TikTokers are slicing raw potatoes and placing them in their — and their children’s — socks before bed. The theory is that the potato draws out toxins.
However, experts warn against relying on folk remedies over medical care.
However, experts warn against relying on folk remedies over medical care.
No, putting a potato in your sock will not cure a cold
TikTokers are placing slices of raw potatoes in their — and their children’s socks — overnight to cure illnesses.
www.washingtonpost.com
November 12, 2025 at 3:52 AM
Hey all, there’s no toxins to draw out of your kids.
Or yourselves.
The only toxicities in your life are social media, political pundits, and underfunctioning men.
Or yourselves.
The only toxicities in your life are social media, political pundits, and underfunctioning men.
Being a therapist means your supervisor might question you when you make a joke about underfunctioning or if a relationship with a bestie is codependent 🤣😮 #therapysky
March 30, 2025 at 7:36 PM
Being a therapist means your supervisor might question you when you make a joke about underfunctioning or if a relationship with a bestie is codependent 🤣😮 #therapysky
The idea in a relationship with an underfunctioning partner is that you have to accept that you're not going to convince them to meet your needs. Ultimately, you need to find your own agency. Your own power and strength. You need to meet your own needs.
It's like that in politics, too.
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It's like that in politics, too.
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June 6, 2025 at 5:03 PM
The idea in a relationship with an underfunctioning partner is that you have to accept that you're not going to convince them to meet your needs. Ultimately, you need to find your own agency. Your own power and strength. You need to meet your own needs.
It's like that in politics, too.
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It's like that in politics, too.
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She says "Perfecting your communication with your Underfunctioning Partner will not improve how well they respond to you."
And "Despite being so ... articluate, and self-aware, you can't seem to crack the communication code with them. But it's not at all because of you."
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And "Despite being so ... articluate, and self-aware, you can't seem to crack the communication code with them. But it's not at all because of you."
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June 6, 2025 at 4:59 PM
She says "Perfecting your communication with your Underfunctioning Partner will not improve how well they respond to you."
And "Despite being so ... articluate, and self-aware, you can't seem to crack the communication code with them. But it's not at all because of you."
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And "Despite being so ... articluate, and self-aware, you can't seem to crack the communication code with them. But it's not at all because of you."
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That brings me to this IG post by Dr. Ashley Southard, which @jejunebug77.bsky.social shared with me this morning: www.instagram.com/p/DKiTIzLBga...
It's 10 slides in which Dr. Southard talks about the issue of communication with underfunctioning partners.
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It's 10 slides in which Dr. Southard talks about the issue of communication with underfunctioning partners.
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June 6, 2025 at 4:54 PM
That brings me to this IG post by Dr. Ashley Southard, which @jejunebug77.bsky.social shared with me this morning: www.instagram.com/p/DKiTIzLBga...
It's 10 slides in which Dr. Southard talks about the issue of communication with underfunctioning partners.
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It's 10 slides in which Dr. Southard talks about the issue of communication with underfunctioning partners.
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He’s not a secret nazi. He’s just an underfunctioning man allergic to accountability.
I don’t know. I don’t think he’s a secret Nazi but it might be an edgelord kind of thing.
October 31, 2025 at 6:30 PM
He’s not a secret nazi. He’s just an underfunctioning man allergic to accountability.
Competence and conscience have been rebranded as elitism, and underfunctioning men continue to play the victim.
I am not just demanding better candidates — I am insisting on a higher standard of collective self-respect.
Starting with no Nazi tattoos.
I am not just demanding better candidates — I am insisting on a higher standard of collective self-respect.
Starting with no Nazi tattoos.
October 21, 2025 at 9:37 PM
Competence and conscience have been rebranded as elitism, and underfunctioning men continue to play the victim.
I am not just demanding better candidates — I am insisting on a higher standard of collective self-respect.
Starting with no Nazi tattoos.
I am not just demanding better candidates — I am insisting on a higher standard of collective self-respect.
Starting with no Nazi tattoos.
Much of BK and Queens is a transit desert, now the workers who used to drive b/t BK, Queens, Manhattan crowd on nearest subway, subway is massively overcrowded and underfunctioning, 2 crowding related track deaths on the 7 within a week because of it
May 11, 2026 at 2:07 PM
Much of BK and Queens is a transit desert, now the workers who used to drive b/t BK, Queens, Manhattan crowd on nearest subway, subway is massively overcrowded and underfunctioning, 2 crowding related track deaths on the 7 within a week because of it
He is orange because his face is red and covered with makeup. That heart is both black and underfunctioning.
May 5, 2025 at 6:15 PM
He is orange because his face is red and covered with makeup. That heart is both black and underfunctioning.
So reform can go round telling residents they will cut 20 per cent of an underfunctioning county council workforce which is on its knees but she wants 150k extra to answer emails? Un bleedin believable the nerve they have. I'll take that job and work answering her mail for 150k
September 19, 2025 at 5:45 PM
So reform can go round telling residents they will cut 20 per cent of an underfunctioning county council workforce which is on its knees but she wants 150k extra to answer emails? Un bleedin believable the nerve they have. I'll take that job and work answering her mail for 150k
Family systems theory says when the person who is overfunctioing stops, the person who is underfunctioning will step up. Not my experience.
April 24, 2024 at 3:44 PM
Family systems theory says when the person who is overfunctioing stops, the person who is underfunctioning will step up. Not my experience.
After 10 seasons of this show normalizing abusive, misogynistic and underfunctioning men, it feels like they finally went too far, and I am so glad that women aren’t having it!
February 27, 2026 at 1:14 PM
After 10 seasons of this show normalizing abusive, misogynistic and underfunctioning men, it feels like they finally went too far, and I am so glad that women aren’t having it!
Would be curious to know more about the thyroid issue, my wife just got tested and apparently her thyroid is waaayy underfunctioning (TSH of nearly 18?)
June 15, 2025 at 9:39 PM
Would be curious to know more about the thyroid issue, my wife just got tested and apparently her thyroid is waaayy underfunctioning (TSH of nearly 18?)