In this live conversation, Carl interviews Ali Heathfield, author of “Not Done Yet,” about balancing digital tools with real-life community - especially for foreigners settling in Portugal.  Ali describes herself as an encourager and shares how redesigning her website and publishing three books, with AI used for editing but not writing, sparked reflections on time online and the “digital divide.”  They argue digital connection isn’t inherently good or bad and works best as a bridge to real life, warning that expats can isolate themselves by only connecting online with people from their own culture and language instead of engaging locally through cafes, events, and new groups.  They discuss loneliness trends, “friction maxing” as a countertrend toward in-person experiences, the lack of nuance and increased rudeness online, and the need to review habits, embrace discomfort, and build community both online and offline. Find Ali here - https://aliheathfield.com/ 00:00 Live Intro and Banter 01:15 Meet Ali the Encourager 02:04 Digital Divide Spark 03:24 AI as Editing Tool 05:43 Mission Drift and Marketing 07:25 Digital Life in Portugal 09:27 Cafe Culture and Belonging 10:30 Friction Maxing Trend 13:01 Balance and Self Review 14:46 Online Chess Parenting 15:14 Chess On Phones 16:03 Online Judgment Culture 16:55 Relocation Groundwork 18:23 Context And Road Rage 19:38 Aging And Change 20:58 Forced Online Services 22:10 Coaching Courses Retreats 22:59 Seek Joy Not Offense 24:27 Banking And Cashless Shift 25:50 Website Resources And T Chat 26:55 Viewer Comments Wrap Up 29:01 Farewell And A Team Pitch