I feel like nobody properly talks about how much parentification just fucking sucks.
November 8, 2026 at 1:45 PM
I feel like nobody properly talks about how much parentification just fucking sucks.
is this just parentification? 😭
November 8, 2026 at 2:59 AM
is this just parentification? 😭
the parentification of the poblano
November 11, 2026 at 5:25 PM
the parentification of the poblano
“For years, decades really, I’ve thought of my experiences with trauma—early, repeated loss, emotional neglect, parentification, exploitation of empathetic characteristics—as small instances of crappy things that were survivable.” https://twloha.com/blog/childhood-trauma-to-physical-health/
November 11, 2026 at 9:30 PM
“For years, decades really, I’ve thought of my experiences with trauma—early, repeated loss, emotional neglect, parentification, exploitation of empathetic characteristics—as small instances of crappy things that were survivable.” https://twloha.com/blog/childhood-trauma-to-physical-health/
FWIW I did eventually forgive my mom for the parentification I went through as a teenager but a significant portion of that was because *she admitted she was wrong* and took steps to untangle her own hurt and behavior.
November 10, 2026 at 6:16 PM
FWIW I did eventually forgive my mom for the parentification I went through as a teenager but a significant portion of that was because *she admitted she was wrong* and took steps to untangle her own hurt and behavior.
#DigimonEggs 2
Great ch! The darkness we saw in ch 1 with being poor was crazy but the mental anguish of parentification from Rindo's sister was crazy sad. But I love the Digital World being people's brains and Rootmon being rebooted. CURIOUS about the arm but great start
Great ch! The darkness we saw in ch 1 with being poor was crazy but the mental anguish of parentification from Rindo's sister was crazy sad. But I love the Digital World being people's brains and Rootmon being rebooted. CURIOUS about the arm but great start
November 6, 2026 at 6:51 AM
#DigimonEggs 2
Great ch! The darkness we saw in ch 1 with being poor was crazy but the mental anguish of parentification from Rindo's sister was crazy sad. But I love the Digital World being people's brains and Rootmon being rebooted. CURIOUS about the arm but great start
Great ch! The darkness we saw in ch 1 with being poor was crazy but the mental anguish of parentification from Rindo's sister was crazy sad. But I love the Digital World being people's brains and Rootmon being rebooted. CURIOUS about the arm but great start
damn.. I'm sorry to hear that..I hope you're healing well..I am slowly..I lost my childhood because of parentification as well so I haven't been the most cheerful person these 34 years. thankfully I have a spouse that doesn't have a problem with my mommy issues & daddy issues
November 4, 2026 at 1:48 PM
damn.. I'm sorry to hear that..I hope you're healing well..I am slowly..I lost my childhood because of parentification as well so I haven't been the most cheerful person these 34 years. thankfully I have a spouse that doesn't have a problem with my mommy issues & daddy issues
I have a therapist but until they find a way for people to forget memories I'm always gonna be haunted. therapy only does so much. I've been going for over 13 years of my life.
it comes down to I've been an adult since 5 thanks to her bullshit..
parentification fucks with peoples heads to much..
it comes down to I've been an adult since 5 thanks to her bullshit..
parentification fucks with peoples heads to much..
November 4, 2026 at 3:14 PM
I have a therapist but until they find a way for people to forget memories I'm always gonna be haunted. therapy only does so much. I've been going for over 13 years of my life.
it comes down to I've been an adult since 5 thanks to her bullshit..
parentification fucks with peoples heads to much..
it comes down to I've been an adult since 5 thanks to her bullshit..
parentification fucks with peoples heads to much..
Ah classic tale of parentification
November 1, 2026 at 4:03 PM
Ah classic tale of parentification
I wish agencies would recognize that this disproportionately affects GIRL children. In many areas personal safety risk, societal notions on movement & ‘modesty’/‘purity’ & the burden of childcare & household work aka parentification - all keep girls imprisoned from being children allowed to play
November 5, 2026 at 12:54 PM
I wish agencies would recognize that this disproportionately affects GIRL children. In many areas personal safety risk, societal notions on movement & ‘modesty’/‘purity’ & the burden of childcare & household work aka parentification - all keep girls imprisoned from being children allowed to play
Being held responsible for the actions of other kids who didn't care what trouble they got into. AKA collective punishment and/or parentification. There's some truth to the first (see: fascism), but you can't both require kids to follow all petty rules and assign them to police each other.
Now I want to know your childhood villain origin story. What radicalised you as a child? What filled you with a rage that lasted a lifetime?
please delight me with your most on-brand story from your childhood
mine is that I quit Cubs after two weeks because it clashed with Coronation Street
mine is that I quit Cubs after two weeks because it clashed with Coronation Street
November 5, 2026 at 8:08 PM
Being held responsible for the actions of other kids who didn't care what trouble they got into. AKA collective punishment and/or parentification. There's some truth to the first (see: fascism), but you can't both require kids to follow all petty rules and assign them to police each other.
Les parents narcissiques (vulnérables) attachant leurs enfants à leurs besoins émotionnels induisent des risques importants de dépression à leur descendance. Il ne s'agit pas de parentification (des responsabilités abusives), mais de dépendance relationnelle à l'enfant. #psychologie #narcissisme
Narcissistic parents tend to lean on their children for emotional support, and that is linked to depression later on
Narcissistic parents tend to lean on their children for emotional support, and that is linked to depression later on
When parents cross emotional boundaries and rely on their children as surrogate partners, those children face a higher risk of adult depression. A new cross-cultural study explores the mechanism linking parental vulnerable narcissism to this childhood emotional enmeshment.
www.psypost.org
November 1, 2026 at 8:55 PM
Les parents narcissiques (vulnérables) attachant leurs enfants à leurs besoins émotionnels induisent des risques importants de dépression à leur descendance. Il ne s'agit pas de parentification (des responsabilités abusives), mais de dépendance relationnelle à l'enfant. #psychologie #narcissisme
for me my rapist maga biological mother not only sexual abused me many times over the years when she was alive but i never got a childhood due to parentification so ageplay is how I heal.
I don't care what you say. this is another reason why I moved to denver.
there are ageplay allies here
I don't care what you say. this is another reason why I moved to denver.
there are ageplay allies here
also more on the alters and the inner child connections with ageplay
November 3, 2026 at 6:11 AM
for me my rapist maga biological mother not only sexual abused me many times over the years when she was alive but i never got a childhood due to parentification so ageplay is how I heal.
I don't care what you say. this is another reason why I moved to denver.
there are ageplay allies here
I don't care what you say. this is another reason why I moved to denver.
there are ageplay allies here
it's called parentification look it up
October 30, 2026 at 3:13 AM
it's called parentification look it up
The entire underlying theme of SU is basically about parentification
October 30, 2026 at 9:22 PM
The entire underlying theme of SU is basically about parentification
Parentification is real, too. I was supposed to look after my younger sibling. Because I was more mature. I was 6 when she was born.
October 27, 2026 at 11:38 PM
Parentification is real, too. I was supposed to look after my younger sibling. Because I was more mature. I was 6 when she was born.
there are worse fates than the parentification ok
October 27, 2026 at 10:16 PM
there are worse fates than the parentification ok
Parentification, sounds like.
October 25, 2026 at 9:37 PM
Parentification, sounds like.
But again reasons why I'm always coming back to the same convos about the spectrum of parentification versus age regression.
Ppl who are "cut off" early for being noticed as an anomaly to bigotry early, often are the prone candidate to be parentified while exploited for labor.
Ppl who are "cut off" early for being noticed as an anomaly to bigotry early, often are the prone candidate to be parentified while exploited for labor.
October 26, 2026 at 3:45 PM
But again reasons why I'm always coming back to the same convos about the spectrum of parentification versus age regression.
Ppl who are "cut off" early for being noticed as an anomaly to bigotry early, often are the prone candidate to be parentified while exploited for labor.
Ppl who are "cut off" early for being noticed as an anomaly to bigotry early, often are the prone candidate to be parentified while exploited for labor.
thinking about shahkti's parentification and getting really upset
October 23, 2026 at 6:26 PM
thinking about shahkti's parentification and getting really upset
Yes, sibling care is parentification. Period. Just because our grandparents or parents were forced to do it doesn’t make it right or developmentally appropriate.
October 25, 2026 at 3:04 AM
Yes, sibling care is parentification. Period. Just because our grandparents or parents were forced to do it doesn’t make it right or developmentally appropriate.
I will die on the hill that students should never be asked to teach others. It’s parentification, it’s doubly problematic if the teaching/helping kid is a girl because that’s programming her in a traditionally feminine coded role, and this one I know from experience: the other kid will RESENT them.
"But what do we do with the gifted kids, they'll just sit in class and twiddle their thumbs?"
I don't know, I guess it's impossible for them to help their classmates, or work on a project in class that uses their curiosity and also teaches their classmates something. <shrug> Guess we can't!
I don't know, I guess it's impossible for them to help their classmates, or work on a project in class that uses their curiosity and also teaches their classmates something. <shrug> Guess we can't!
October 24, 2026 at 5:42 AM
I will die on the hill that students should never be asked to teach others. It’s parentification, it’s doubly problematic if the teaching/helping kid is a girl because that’s programming her in a traditionally feminine coded role, and this one I know from experience: the other kid will RESENT them.
Given your past that makes sense. Emotional parentification still makes you think that way from time to time. You know the logic is wrong, but it's hard wired pretty deeply in the end.
It's okay to mourn for what you never had, and never will have. 🫂
It's okay to mourn for what you never had, and never will have. 🫂
October 23, 2026 at 6:51 PM
Given your past that makes sense. Emotional parentification still makes you think that way from time to time. You know the logic is wrong, but it's hard wired pretty deeply in the end.
It's okay to mourn for what you never had, and never will have. 🫂
It's okay to mourn for what you never had, and never will have. 🫂
Yep yep… this family is sooo messed up… parentification and the evil evil dagda elephant in the room. i think what they used to have together was very sweet… before it all fell apart😭
October 22, 2026 at 3:59 PM
Yep yep… this family is sooo messed up… parentification and the evil evil dagda elephant in the room. i think what they used to have together was very sweet… before it all fell apart😭
Lot's of parents try to raise their kids to meet their personal needs only.
Like fuck 'em kids if the only life-skills are making mommy and/or daddy happy & secure. See: Parentification, Enmeshment, Emotional Incest.
I'm sure lots of stories we hear from transphobic parents have such a background.
Like fuck 'em kids if the only life-skills are making mommy and/or daddy happy & secure. See: Parentification, Enmeshment, Emotional Incest.
I'm sure lots of stories we hear from transphobic parents have such a background.
October 22, 2026 at 9:58 AM
Lot's of parents try to raise their kids to meet their personal needs only.
Like fuck 'em kids if the only life-skills are making mommy and/or daddy happy & secure. See: Parentification, Enmeshment, Emotional Incest.
I'm sure lots of stories we hear from transphobic parents have such a background.
Like fuck 'em kids if the only life-skills are making mommy and/or daddy happy & secure. See: Parentification, Enmeshment, Emotional Incest.
I'm sure lots of stories we hear from transphobic parents have such a background.