New post. On the verge of change? And an excerpt from my memoir. #CSA #survivor #LearningtoSurvive #onevoice #16days <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2021/11/28/turning-the-corner/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2021/11/28/turning-the-corner/

We must hold hands. We must reach out. There are so many of us. We are never alone, and today's children need to know this. With an excerpt from #LearningtoSurvive . #CSA <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2021/12/02/holding-hands/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2021/12/02/holding-hands/

It's so hard to say what happened to you. But not saying it clears the way for abuse to keep happening. Disclosure is a burden we never wanted to carry. But we are all in this together. #csa #CSA #disclosure #breakingsilence #LearningtoSurvive...

There's no escaping #survivors of #csa, or their #allies. Even on juries. Even decades ago. We must see #CSA as part of the Human Experience. For now. Alas. #GhislaineMaxwelltrial #ScottyDavid #therapy #incidenceofCSA #LearningtoSurvive...

Super-alert. Super-observant. On edge. Following up my recent thread on here about hypervigilance, pondering its impacts, good and bad. #csa #PTSD #hypervigilance #LearningtoSurvive <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2022/01/13/the-girl-by-the-pool/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2022/01/13/the-girl-by-the-pool/

Why don't children disclose Child Sexual Abuse? Why don't adults? Shame, but also fear: the risk feels huge. #csa #disclosure #LearningtoSurvive #memoir <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2022/01/18/yes-things-fall-apart/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2022/01/18/yes-things-fall-apart/

BLOG: 'I ask you to look closely at this photo.' Me at 12, during my father's abuse. Cultural reactions were all about 'family problems' & 'temptation' back then, as articulated by @deltacane recently. NEVER the case. #memoir #learningtosurvive #survivor...

NEW BLOG POST! After weeks of health investigations, I have some probable answers. And yes, possibly to do with #ChildSexualAbuse #CSA #trauma. One thing's for sure: we #survivors are #resilient af! #memoir #mastcells #MCAS #LearningtoSurvive...

NEW BLOG POST: Femininity and #CSA -- how things have changed for me, and where my discomfort with pink and bikinis comes from. More embedded legacies of #ChildSexualAbuse. #survivors #trauma #healing #memoir #learningtosurvive #empowerment...

NEW BLOG POST: some things matter so much. This about my 'fathers': my grandfather, and my father-in-law, who gave me this bracelet 22 years ago. I miss them so much. #memoir #learningtosurvive #grief #unconditionallove #goodfathers...

NEW BLOG: the first part of the SHAME entry which undid me a couple of weeks ago. What is shame? How do I manage it? Where does it come from? #CSA #shame #memoir #PTSD #healing #survivor #parallellives #LearningToSurvive #poetry <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2022/07/25/shame-part-1/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2022/07/25/shame-part-1/

NEW BLOG POST: how feeling vulnerable and dirty can ambush #survivors at any turn, and how not having my wedding rings ambushed me last weekend. #CSA #PTSD #fear #trauma #memoir #LearningtoSurvive <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2022/08/26/the-fear-remains/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2022/08/26/the-fear-remains/

NEW BLOG POST: what happens to me, a #CSA #survivor, when I am not able to move freely -- like now. Why does movement matter so much? #PTSD #trauma #dance #immobility #memoir #LearningtoSurvive #freedom #paralysis #freezing <a href="http://patriciadebney.com/2022/12/14/the-cost-of-immobility/" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link="bsky">http://patriciadebney.com/2022/12/14/the-cost-of-immobility/

NEW BLOG POST: on my experience of celebrations in a household with #CSA, Child Sexual Abuse. The fear, the tensions, feeling so vulnerable. Does everyone feel this way? #survivor #memoir #LearningtoSurvive #familyChristmas #dysfunctional...

You have a right to be angry at the injustices in your world, just don't let that anger fuel your revenge. http://learningtosurvive-evy.blogspot.com/2013/09/surviving-shruken-head-syndrome.html