#Prompter #Prompt #kinkeeping
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
December 27, 2025 at 3:46 PM
#Prompter #Prompt #kinkeeping
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
Wow, I didn't read that the right way on the first try.
October 5, 2026 at 7:35 PM
Wow, I didn't read that the right way on the first try.
The constant work that goes into keeping a family connected has a name. And it's still done mostly by women. www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
May 9, 2024 at 12:55 AM
The constant work that goes into keeping a family connected has a name. And it's still done mostly by women. www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
a big reason I grew resentful when married was cos I did virtually all the kinkeeping
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
The Invisible Family Job Women Still Do Most—and Why It Feels So Exhausting
Kinkeeping explains the invisible family labor women often carry. Learn how to share the mental load of traditions, birthdays, and connection.
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August 22, 2026 at 6:52 PM
a big reason I grew resentful when married was cos I did virtually all the kinkeeping
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
So... he created a platform for kinkeeping. shit. why doesn't someone give me 6 million dollars for remembering things about the people I like and love.
December 13, 2024 at 4:15 PM
So... he created a platform for kinkeeping. shit. why doesn't someone give me 6 million dollars for remembering things about the people I like and love.
It’s not until adulthood that you realize that all those magical childhood holidays, birthdays, vacations, and family traditions were the result of hours of work & tons of mental energy by (usually) moms.
The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name
“Kinkeeping” plays a crucial role in a family’s health and well-being, and it’s still predominantly done by women.
www.nytimes.com
May 10, 2024 at 2:53 AM
It’s not until adulthood that you realize that all those magical childhood holidays, birthdays, vacations, and family traditions were the result of hours of work & tons of mental energy by (usually) moms.
Black cat girlfriend/golden retriever boyfriend means kinkeeping ends up being the guy's job or you literally talk to nobody ever indefinitely
March 4, 2025 at 1:51 PM
Black cat girlfriend/golden retriever boyfriend means kinkeeping ends up being the guy's job or you literally talk to nobody ever indefinitely
She found this article on “kinkeeping,” a word I hadn’t heard, but an activity that I do, in fact, do a tremendous amount of in my extended family, work that I alternately value and resent.
www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name
“Kinkeeping” plays a crucial role in a family’s health and well-being, and it’s still predominantly done by women.
www.nytimes.com
May 15, 2024 at 6:22 PM
She found this article on “kinkeeping,” a word I hadn’t heard, but an activity that I do, in fact, do a tremendous amount of in my extended family, work that I alternately value and resent.
www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
‘Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community’ (2000) Robert D. Putnam
‘Kinkeeping in the Familial Division of Labor’ (1984) Carolyn J. Rosenthal
‘Kinkeeping in the Familial Division of Labor’ (1984) Carolyn J. Rosenthal
January 27, 2025 at 8:31 PM
‘Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community’ (2000) Robert D. Putnam
‘Kinkeeping in the Familial Division of Labor’ (1984) Carolyn J. Rosenthal
‘Kinkeeping in the Familial Division of Labor’ (1984) Carolyn J. Rosenthal
Grandma, Kinkeeping, and the Birthday Book open.substack.com/pub/maryjoan... This was written a long time ago.
Grandma, Kinkeeping, and the Birthday Book
One of my most cherished possessions is my grandmother's small 1980 datebook.
open.substack.com
February 7, 2025 at 11:54 PM
Grandma, Kinkeeping, and the Birthday Book open.substack.com/pub/maryjoan... This was written a long time ago.
I think it’s both, & those two things are separate (though connected)
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
May 28, 2026 at 1:43 PM
I think it’s both, & those two things are separate (though connected)
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
There's even a term for that.
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Kinkeeping - Wikipedia
en.wikipedia.org
April 8, 2026 at 12:36 PM
There's even a term for that.
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Too often, the work of kinkeeping falls fully to women. Which is why I'm especially grateful to have a partner who (like his dad before him) manages the family address book, designs and orders the holiday cards, prints the envelopes, and makes sure that they get sent.
December 2, 2023 at 4:43 PM
Too often, the work of kinkeeping falls fully to women. Which is why I'm especially grateful to have a partner who (like his dad before him) manages the family address book, designs and orders the holiday cards, prints the envelopes, and makes sure that they get sent.
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Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
July 31, 2026 at 7:28 PM
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Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
Do write the article! Grannys are the ones doing the kin work/kinkeeping labour in families, so presumably any emotional connection is to them.
September 15, 2026 at 9:04 AM
Do write the article! Grannys are the ones doing the kin work/kinkeeping labour in families, so presumably any emotional connection is to them.
“Kinkeeping is one of those essential forms of labor that most of us don’t notice until it disappears,”
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
apple.news/AJohAcUWdSOO...
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
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The Invisible Family Job Women Still Do Most—and Why It Feels So Exhausting — Real Simple
It was after midnight in the midst of the December holiday rush, and I finally collapsed into bed after a fast-and-furious evening of online gift shopping, holiday card stuffing, and party menu planni...
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July 31, 2026 at 7:28 PM
“Kinkeeping is one of those essential forms of labor that most of us don’t notice until it disappears,”
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
apple.news/AJohAcUWdSOO...
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
apple.news/AJohAcUWdSOO...
Oh god and I still have to figure out the voltage converter.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
August 2, 2025 at 8:46 PM
Oh god and I still have to figure out the voltage converter.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
Having been in this role for seven months now, I can confirm that it is difficult and that I am very bad at it. Gift link: www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
May 9, 2024 at 3:11 AM
Having been in this role for seven months now, I can confirm that it is difficult and that I am very bad at it. Gift link: www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
they should've been protectors; instead they raised violence & suffering. a dagger ready to plunge into any heart or back for modest coin, or turn of weather. she was inhered in the underworld where kinkeeping was a weakness, but a sharp bodkin could find family
#vss365 #vssthreads #crowcalls #mpotd
#vss365 #vssthreads #crowcalls #mpotd
April 26, 2024 at 5:47 PM
they should've been protectors; instead they raised violence & suffering. a dagger ready to plunge into any heart or back for modest coin, or turn of weather. she was inhered in the underworld where kinkeeping was a weakness, but a sharp bodkin could find family
#vss365 #vssthreads #crowcalls #mpotd
#vss365 #vssthreads #crowcalls #mpotd
Eine Freundin dropte heute den Begriff Kinkeeping und naja, dann hat dieser Aufgabenanteil vieler Frauen jetzt auch einen Namen
December 3, 2025 at 6:06 PM
Eine Freundin dropte heute den Begriff Kinkeeping und naja, dann hat dieser Aufgabenanteil vieler Frauen jetzt auch einen Namen
My mind is in the gutter cuz I thought of something *very* different
May 9, 2024 at 3:22 AM
My mind is in the gutter cuz I thought of something *very* different
You don't have to take your short-comings and monetize it. And maybe recognize that a lot of women have done this shit for you most of your life. Just give women money for all of their fucking unpaid labor in kinkeeping.
December 13, 2024 at 4:28 PM
You don't have to take your short-comings and monetize it. And maybe recognize that a lot of women have done this shit for you most of your life. Just give women money for all of their fucking unpaid labor in kinkeeping.
I can research the shit out of medical providers, get an appointment where none was to be had & scour pharmacies for elusive ADHA meds.
BUT I draw the line at gift buying for extended family & other kinkeeping expectations.
One can only do so much.
BUT I draw the line at gift buying for extended family & other kinkeeping expectations.
One can only do so much.
The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name (Published 2024)
www.nytimes.com
May 16, 2025 at 2:48 AM
I can research the shit out of medical providers, get an appointment where none was to be had & scour pharmacies for elusive ADHA meds.
BUT I draw the line at gift buying for extended family & other kinkeeping expectations.
One can only do so much.
BUT I draw the line at gift buying for extended family & other kinkeeping expectations.
One can only do so much.
kinkeeping as kink-eep-ing is when you have a really fun night and need to take a nap halfway through
May 9, 2024 at 7:51 PM
kinkeeping as kink-eep-ing is when you have a really fun night and need to take a nap halfway through