Wow, I didn't read that the right way on the first try.
October 5, 2026 at 7:35 PM
Wow, I didn't read that the right way on the first try.
Do write the article! Grannys are the ones doing the kin work/kinkeeping labour in families, so presumably any emotional connection is to them.
September 15, 2026 at 9:04 AM
Do write the article! Grannys are the ones doing the kin work/kinkeeping labour in families, so presumably any emotional connection is to them.
Just saw an ad on YouTube for a collection of crap at Hobby Lobby. The collection is called Kinkeeping.
I don't think they really thought through the logistics of how
KINKEEPING
looks.
I don't think they really thought through the logistics of how
KINKEEPING
looks.
September 5, 2026 at 10:00 PM
Just saw an ad on YouTube for a collection of crap at Hobby Lobby. The collection is called Kinkeeping.
I don't think they really thought through the logistics of how
KINKEEPING
looks.
I don't think they really thought through the logistics of how
KINKEEPING
looks.
a big reason I grew resentful when married was cos I did virtually all the kinkeeping
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
The Invisible Family Job Women Still Do Most—and Why It Feels So Exhausting
Kinkeeping explains the invisible family labor women often carry. Learn how to share the mental load of traditions, birthdays, and connection.
www.realsimple.com
August 22, 2026 at 6:52 PM
a big reason I grew resentful when married was cos I did virtually all the kinkeeping
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
www.realsimple.com/invisible-la...
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Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
July 31, 2026 at 7:28 PM
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Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
Women are conditioned from almost birth that this is on us.
“Basically, if it’s a task or to-do that maintains a connection and that warm hug of love within a relationship or a group, it’s kinkeeping.”
“Kinkeeping is one of those essential forms of labor that most of us don’t notice until it disappears,”
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
apple.news/AJohAcUWdSOO...
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
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The Invisible Family Job Women Still Do Most—and Why It Feels So Exhausting — Real Simple
It was after midnight in the midst of the December holiday rush, and I finally collapsed into bed after a fast-and-furious evening of online gift shopping, holiday card stuffing, and party menu planni...
apple.news
July 31, 2026 at 7:28 PM
“Kinkeeping is one of those essential forms of labor that most of us don’t notice until it disappears,”
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
apple.news/AJohAcUWdSOO...
And it falls to women whether they want to do it or not. 1/
apple.news/AJohAcUWdSOO...
The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name (Published 2024)
“Kinkeeping” plays a crucial role in a family’s health and well-being, and it’s still predominantly done by women.
www.nytimes.com
July 15, 2026 at 2:15 PM
The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name www.nytimes.com/2024/05/08/w...
hubs does not feel bad AT ALL. even a little bit but you can't let niggas be the barometer. they don't know nothing about kinkeeping. 💀
July 5, 2026 at 7:14 PM
hubs does not feel bad AT ALL. even a little bit but you can't let niggas be the barometer. they don't know nothing about kinkeeping. 💀
I think it’s both, & those two things are separate (though connected)
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
May 28, 2026 at 1:43 PM
I think it’s both, & those two things are separate (though connected)
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
Our cognitive load is huge *because* in addition to paid work we’ve the expectation of constant emotional & domestic labor, kinkeeping, dependent care, & vast self-regulation in order to manage the outsourced regulation of others
There's even a term for that.
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Kinkeeping - Wikipedia
en.wikipedia.org
April 8, 2026 at 12:36 PM
There's even a term for that.
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
Women are very often put into kinkeeping roles. Whether it's in a family, a community, or at a job.
In the workforce, for example, who gets to do the unpaid labor of organizing company parties? It's usually the women employees.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinkeep...
#Prompter #Prompt #kinkeeping
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
December 27, 2025 at 3:46 PM
#Prompter #Prompt #kinkeeping
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
#Oxj @oddlystarry.bsky.social
#PoetryCommunity #art
#Kinkeeping is not nostalgia—
it is survival; a refusal to
let history fray at the edges.
Through shared stories
shared vision, shared light—
we keep each other from
fragments or objects
we call our connection kindred
Today’s words are “kinkeeping” and/or “vacation”. Let’s take an Oddly Festive Journey! #oxjDailyWords #oxj bit.ly/N9yibo
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OXJ What is OXJ ? OXJ is a twitter-based daily writing prompt game. Every day I provide two words. You create a tweet incorporating o...
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December 27, 2025 at 12:15 PM
Today’s words are “kinkeeping” and/or “vacation”. Let’s take an Oddly Festive Journey! #oxjDailyWords #oxj bit.ly/N9yibo
Now is a great time to thank the women in your life for doing all the kinkeeping. www.glamour.com/story/kin-ke...
‘Kin Keeping’ Might Explain Why You Feel So Stressed During the Holidays
The emotional labor of maintaining close relationships with family and friends, a task that falls almost exclusively on women, hits especially hard at Christmas.
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December 14, 2025 at 6:39 PM
Now is a great time to thank the women in your life for doing all the kinkeeping. www.glamour.com/story/kin-ke...
Workshopping my TEDx presentation titled 21st Century Kinkeeping Practices When You're Childfree and Not on Any Meta Properties and Have Always Been a Little "Different"
December 4, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Workshopping my TEDx presentation titled 21st Century Kinkeeping Practices When You're Childfree and Not on Any Meta Properties and Have Always Been a Little "Different"
Eine Freundin dropte heute den Begriff Kinkeeping und naja, dann hat dieser Aufgabenanteil vieler Frauen jetzt auch einen Namen
December 3, 2025 at 6:06 PM
Eine Freundin dropte heute den Begriff Kinkeeping und naja, dann hat dieser Aufgabenanteil vieler Frauen jetzt auch einen Namen
💡 The Canadian government is offering a primer on holiday mental load, complete with discussion of gender dynamics and a handy checklist 📝
www.canada.ca/en/women-gen...
Meanwhile the US government is… denying the existence of gender.
www.canada.ca/en/women-gen...
Meanwhile the US government is… denying the existence of gender.
The economics of kinkeeping - Canada.ca
www.canada.ca
October 3, 2025 at 7:57 PM
💡 The Canadian government is offering a primer on holiday mental load, complete with discussion of gender dynamics and a handy checklist 📝
www.canada.ca/en/women-gen...
Meanwhile the US government is… denying the existence of gender.
www.canada.ca/en/women-gen...
Meanwhile the US government is… denying the existence of gender.
If i want to Keep My Bluesky Account l, 👁️ need to hold my tongue.
We Need An Unconventional Solution to the United Reich.
Yes, the Birthrate is down, the only role for men in “Pro-Life” states is that of Caregiver, Homemaker, Kinkeeping, & SAHD.
pin.it/3vmetkDr6
youtu.be/0jThcqPKexQ?...
We Need An Unconventional Solution to the United Reich.
Yes, the Birthrate is down, the only role for men in “Pro-Life” states is that of Caregiver, Homemaker, Kinkeeping, & SAHD.
pin.it/3vmetkDr6
youtu.be/0jThcqPKexQ?...
Gender Role Reversal | Baker Twins
YouTube video by BakerTwins
youtu.be
August 17, 2025 at 10:04 PM
If i want to Keep My Bluesky Account l, 👁️ need to hold my tongue.
We Need An Unconventional Solution to the United Reich.
Yes, the Birthrate is down, the only role for men in “Pro-Life” states is that of Caregiver, Homemaker, Kinkeeping, & SAHD.
pin.it/3vmetkDr6
youtu.be/0jThcqPKexQ?...
We Need An Unconventional Solution to the United Reich.
Yes, the Birthrate is down, the only role for men in “Pro-Life” states is that of Caregiver, Homemaker, Kinkeeping, & SAHD.
pin.it/3vmetkDr6
youtu.be/0jThcqPKexQ?...
Oh god and I still have to figure out the voltage converter.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
August 2, 2025 at 8:46 PM
Oh god and I still have to figure out the voltage converter.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
Shit.
This is why my mom complains. My father takes care of the outdoor work except the gardening (the “man’s” domain) and she has to do pretty much everything inside AND all of the kinkeeping stuff.
I totally read “kinkeeping” wrong. Hey now.
July 31, 2025 at 10:41 PM
I totally read “kinkeeping” wrong. Hey now.
I have read the article, as well as rereading the key works it is building on (England & Farkas, 1986; Erickson, 1993 for "emotion work" and Rosenthal, 1985 for "kinkeeping," which "mankeeping" is a play on). It really just comes down to whether you believe *any* expenditure of effort is labor/work.
July 31, 2025 at 5:40 PM
I have read the article, as well as rereading the key works it is building on (England & Farkas, 1986; Erickson, 1993 for "emotion work" and Rosenthal, 1985 for "kinkeeping," which "mankeeping" is a play on). It really just comes down to whether you believe *any* expenditure of effort is labor/work.
It makes more sense in the context of the original article, as an offshoot of the sociological concept of "kinkeeping"
July 31, 2025 at 3:57 AM
It makes more sense in the context of the original article, as an offshoot of the sociological concept of "kinkeeping"