So color me skeptical of any "cure" for the "male loneliness epidemic" that isn't "abolish patriarchy (and capitalism)."
Patriarchy alienates broad classes of its subjects from relationality just like capitalism alienates broad classes of its subjects from our labor.
The two work in tandem.
Patriarchy alienates broad classes of its subjects from relationality just like capitalism alienates broad classes of its subjects from our labor.
The two work in tandem.
July 15, 2025 at 5:15 PM
So color me skeptical of any "cure" for the "male loneliness epidemic" that isn't "abolish patriarchy (and capitalism)."
Patriarchy alienates broad classes of its subjects from relationality just like capitalism alienates broad classes of its subjects from our labor.
The two work in tandem.
Patriarchy alienates broad classes of its subjects from relationality just like capitalism alienates broad classes of its subjects from our labor.
The two work in tandem.
*relationality
Autocorrect is calibrated for third grade words for all human expressions and I hate it
Autocorrect is calibrated for third grade words for all human expressions and I hate it
August 1, 2025 at 3:52 PM
*relationality
Autocorrect is calibrated for third grade words for all human expressions and I hate it
Autocorrect is calibrated for third grade words for all human expressions and I hate it
i'd say it's the false assertion that borders are legitimate markers of identity, meaning, and relationality.
Nationalism, noun. — The erroneous belief that it is better to be
exploited and oppressed by people of your own
country, ethnicity, or creed.
#4thofJuly
exploited and oppressed by people of your own
country, ethnicity, or creed.
#4thofJuly
July 4, 2026 at 1:26 AM
i'd say it's the false assertion that borders are legitimate markers of identity, meaning, and relationality.
GenAI "struggles with making meaningful player experiences" because it fundamentally can't make "meaning" of any sort; meaning comes from intention and relationality
“There’s a large gap between what’s being promised and what’s actually possible with the current technology,” says Ken Noland, co-founder of game co-development studio AI Guys. “Generative AI still struggles when it comes to making meaningful player experiences.”
www.ft.com/content/7cd6...
www.ft.com/content/7cd6...
Will AI be the hero or villain of gaming?
For players it could turn games into living worlds, but many developers believe machine learning is no match for human-crafted experiences
www.ft.com
May 2, 2025 at 8:07 PM
GenAI "struggles with making meaningful player experiences" because it fundamentally can't make "meaning" of any sort; meaning comes from intention and relationality
This is why organizing that reaches for relationality is central, not secondary - it breaks the capitalist idea of us as atomized, individual consumers and compels us to act in solidarity with others. And, perhaps more than anything, it's a politics more rooted in cultivating belonging than ideology
January 23, 2026 at 10:24 PM
This is why organizing that reaches for relationality is central, not secondary - it breaks the capitalist idea of us as atomized, individual consumers and compels us to act in solidarity with others. And, perhaps more than anything, it's a politics more rooted in cultivating belonging than ideology
I also think writing is an act of relationality. Why LLMs generate text, not write.
July 11, 2026 at 11:19 AM
I also think writing is an act of relationality. Why LLMs generate text, not write.
There's no meaningful way for settlers to understand Indigenous food systems beyond "nutrition" or survival. When we explain relationality, they think it's a new theoretical trend word with empty value when the actual practice of relationality is an interconnected and complex way of living with
April 4, 2026 at 4:11 PM
There's no meaningful way for settlers to understand Indigenous food systems beyond "nutrition" or survival. When we explain relationality, they think it's a new theoretical trend word with empty value when the actual practice of relationality is an interconnected and complex way of living with
Colonialism exists through severances, which means we need to prioritize relationality to resist and overturn it.
May 5, 2026 at 11:24 AM
Colonialism exists through severances, which means we need to prioritize relationality to resist and overturn it.
For example, she turns away from theories of "grounded normativity" and offers grounded *relationality* instead. I love that.
Normativity is prescriptive.
Relationality is layered and variable. Important distinctions.
Normativity is prescriptive.
Relationality is layered and variable. Important distinctions.
December 13, 2025 at 1:58 PM
For example, she turns away from theories of "grounded normativity" and offers grounded *relationality* instead. I love that.
Normativity is prescriptive.
Relationality is layered and variable. Important distinctions.
Normativity is prescriptive.
Relationality is layered and variable. Important distinctions.
Indigenous communities predate USA and so does their diversity of human connection, including gender(-ed) relationality.
The imposition of the gender binary has always been a colonial sleight.
The imposition of the gender binary has always been a colonial sleight.
January 21, 2025 at 7:36 AM
Indigenous communities predate USA and so does their diversity of human connection, including gender(-ed) relationality.
The imposition of the gender binary has always been a colonial sleight.
The imposition of the gender binary has always been a colonial sleight.
I'm excited to say that part of this inspired my chapter in Exploring Autistic Sexualities, Relationality, and Genders
Living Under a Double Rainbow.
A book filled with amazing Autistic queer authors and their work (and possibly an ally or two).
www.routledge.com/Exploring-Au...
Living Under a Double Rainbow.
A book filled with amazing Autistic queer authors and their work (and possibly an ally or two).
www.routledge.com/Exploring-Au...
Exploring Autistic Sexualities, Relationality, and Genders: Living Under a Double Rainbow
This edited collection of contributions explores non-normative genders, sexualities, and relationality among Autistic people.
Written within an explicitly neuro-affirmative frame, the collection celeb...
www.routledge.com
January 19, 2025 at 10:42 AM
I'm excited to say that part of this inspired my chapter in Exploring Autistic Sexualities, Relationality, and Genders
Living Under a Double Rainbow.
A book filled with amazing Autistic queer authors and their work (and possibly an ally or two).
www.routledge.com/Exploring-Au...
Living Under a Double Rainbow.
A book filled with amazing Autistic queer authors and their work (and possibly an ally or two).
www.routledge.com/Exploring-Au...
War is relational and these guys suck at relationality that isn't abusive.
March 10, 2026 at 12:33 PM
War is relational and these guys suck at relationality that isn't abusive.
A new scholarly article I co-authored is out at the Quarterly Journal of Speech. If you like reading communication theory and thinking about how to apply it to confront groups like Patriot Front, this article is for you.
July 13, 2026 at 9:03 PM
A new scholarly article I co-authored is out at the Quarterly Journal of Speech. If you like reading communication theory and thinking about how to apply it to confront groups like Patriot Front, this article is for you.
Great to see this finally out: My article "The Stubborn Will to Mean: Sympathy, Relationality, and the Origins of Collecting Indigenous Bones in the Eighteenth Century" in ELH!
Project MUSE -- Verification required!
muse.jhu.edu
June 22, 2026 at 8:33 AM
Great to see this finally out: My article "The Stubborn Will to Mean: Sympathy, Relationality, and the Origins of Collecting Indigenous Bones in the Eighteenth Century" in ELH!
Why is AI so shit? Its shoddy outputs reflect the brittleness of an epistemology that relies fully on abstraction & reduction and actively eliminates relationality and adaptivity. As such, it doesn’t replace human activity but acts as its violent suppression.
September 10, 2025 at 7:36 AM
Why is AI so shit? Its shoddy outputs reflect the brittleness of an epistemology that relies fully on abstraction & reduction and actively eliminates relationality and adaptivity. As such, it doesn’t replace human activity but acts as its violent suppression.
Wrote up some thoughts on new *atmospheric generatives*
Things that can generate value even in environments where everything can be copied, like:
contextualization • fluidity • aggregation • relationality
Riffing on a @kevinkelly.bsky.social piece from years ago; extending for the atmosphere!
Things that can generate value even in environments where everything can be copied, like:
contextualization • fluidity • aggregation • relationality
Riffing on a @kevinkelly.bsky.social piece from years ago; extending for the atmosphere!
On atmospheric generatives…
How can we build moats on an open network? How can we make money when all the data's free? Here, I sketch some ideas for new generatives — contextualization, fluidity, aggregation, and relationality — for value creation in the atmosphere.
scraps.schlage.town
May 7, 2026 at 8:18 PM
Wrote up some thoughts on new *atmospheric generatives*
Things that can generate value even in environments where everything can be copied, like:
contextualization • fluidity • aggregation • relationality
Riffing on a @kevinkelly.bsky.social piece from years ago; extending for the atmosphere!
Things that can generate value even in environments where everything can be copied, like:
contextualization • fluidity • aggregation • relationality
Riffing on a @kevinkelly.bsky.social piece from years ago; extending for the atmosphere!
I'll also note that by centering femininity as a spiritual essence characterized by passivity and nonviolence, you're also able to sort of perversely transform 'feminism' from fighting against patriarchy towards fighting for a particular interpretation of how to construct patriarchal relationality.
There's a long section here that can be summed up as, "It's appealing to believe in this spiritualist matriarchal past that relied on the innate goodness and non-violence of the female essence, because that's less disappointed than the messy realities of political activism."
And ... ouch.
And ... ouch.
May 28, 2025 at 4:03 PM
I'll also note that by centering femininity as a spiritual essence characterized by passivity and nonviolence, you're also able to sort of perversely transform 'feminism' from fighting against patriarchy towards fighting for a particular interpretation of how to construct patriarchal relationality.
Happy to announce that my book Being Understood: Deaf Interpreters, Embodied Language, and Relationality has been accepted for publication and is in production.
March 12, 2025 at 1:11 PM
Happy to announce that my book Being Understood: Deaf Interpreters, Embodied Language, and Relationality has been accepted for publication and is in production.
Migrating to Bluesky. Resistance involves creativity and relationality.
February 22, 2025 at 6:05 PM
Migrating to Bluesky. Resistance involves creativity and relationality.
Being ethical requires reflection, deliberation, action and proper relationality.
Ethics is practice. Every Day.
Ethics is practice. Every Day.
What’s a thing from your area of expertise (or special interest) that you think it would behoove everyone else to know?
August 13, 2026 at 10:58 PM
Being ethical requires reflection, deliberation, action and proper relationality.
Ethics is practice. Every Day.
Ethics is practice. Every Day.
How can I go back to a faculty that has refused to unambiguously condemn genocide? Refused to support Indigenous students harmed by cops on campus? What Indigenous relationality is possibly being practiced here?
December 24, 2024 at 4:10 AM
How can I go back to a faculty that has refused to unambiguously condemn genocide? Refused to support Indigenous students harmed by cops on campus? What Indigenous relationality is possibly being practiced here?
tl;dr I think colonizers, especially those attracted to positions of power & violence like certain agents, are acting from deep generational trauma from patriarchy and disconnection from nature & relationality that goes back centuries, and I don't think we'll stop the cycle until we reckon with that
January 8, 2026 at 10:31 PM
tl;dr I think colonizers, especially those attracted to positions of power & violence like certain agents, are acting from deep generational trauma from patriarchy and disconnection from nature & relationality that goes back centuries, and I don't think we'll stop the cycle until we reckon with that
Norms are fetishes, are talismanic objects, sites of ritualised relationality.
No more, no less -- with everything that implies.
No more, no less -- with everything that implies.
January 21, 2025 at 12:13 PM
Norms are fetishes, are talismanic objects, sites of ritualised relationality.
No more, no less -- with everything that implies.
No more, no less -- with everything that implies.
Hoagland, Sarah Lucia. “Denying Relationality: Epistemology and Ethics of Ignorance.” In Race and Epistemologies of Ignorance, edited by Shannon Sullivan and Nancy Tuana, 95–118. Albany: State University of New York Press, 2007.
the other half of this that I've never really gotten over: this all but explicitly amounts to valorizing being "asleep". people are really out here wielding "I have no idea what's going on, historically speaking" as a credential
This is, after all, the original and authentic meaning of "stay woke." In fact, the perversion of "woke" into an epithet is perhaps the defining metaphor of our moment: Historical victims are not only being revictimized, but also mocked for never forgetting this is always a possibility in the US.
September 28, 2025 at 9:43 PM
Hoagland, Sarah Lucia. “Denying Relationality: Epistemology and Ethics of Ignorance.” In Race and Epistemologies of Ignorance, edited by Shannon Sullivan and Nancy Tuana, 95–118. Albany: State University of New York Press, 2007.
The question of how we build and maintain spaces for free exchange, relationality, mutual enrichment without exploitation is hard. Transactional alternatives don't really solve this either - your event based price gougers secure the resources to sustain their enterprises but erode relationality.
July 19, 2026 at 1:48 AM
The question of how we build and maintain spaces for free exchange, relationality, mutual enrichment without exploitation is hard. Transactional alternatives don't really solve this either - your event based price gougers secure the resources to sustain their enterprises but erode relationality.