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ellentift.bsky.social
Even a small confrontation can send shock waves through a complex trauma survivor’s nervous system. Why is that and what can we do about it?

#cptsd #complextrauma #conflict #ihateconflict #traumahealing

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November 9, 2026 at 12:33 AM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
Feeling this today.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney
November 4, 2026 at 8:19 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Some wounds hurt more because of who caused them. Betrayal trauma has layers, and the closer and more necessary the relationship, the deeper the betrayal. If this is your story, I see you. #betrayaltrauma #cptsd #cheatingisabuse #traumahealing #complextrauma
November 5, 2026 at 11:03 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
My therapist confirmed #CPTSD is acquired neurodivergence. I'm being evaluated to see if I'm also on the spectrum (innate neurodivergence). Flabbergasted is a good word. Thinking like that doesn't occur to me.

#complexPTSD #complextrauma #healing #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong
Being neurodivergent and pure hearted will have you flabbergasted at how intentionally evil people can be
November 6, 2026 at 7:27 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
No alt text for this infographic on silent treatment. It is never ok. It is always abusive.

#silenttreatment #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #cultsurvivor #survivorstrong #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healing #healingjourney
November 4, 2026 at 7:22 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
But holy fuck this shit runs deep! #CPTSD is sometimes the wildest game of connect the dots.

#complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #babysteps
November 6, 2026 at 5:05 AM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
Talking to other survivors, I'm not the only one this has happened to. It's another layer of gaslighting by our abusers. Causing not only brain injury, but exacerbating depression & anxiety.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healing #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #mentalhealth
I didn't have "mental health issues." I had unsafe environment issues. And once I escaped that unsafe environment... most of my "mental health issues" were entirely manageable. - Kalen Dion
November 5, 2026 at 9:51 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I don't join voice chat for treasure map runs with the lalafell crew. My over-ear headset now represents being controlled and abused. I think I could use it if we ever had the time for a static again, but for now not wearing it represents freedom.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healingjourney
November 8, 2026 at 4:24 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
When do you think this becomes abuse? Swipe through Paloma's story and notice where you'd draw the line. Then tell me in the comments: which slide was it for you?

Read Paloma's whole story. ellentift.com
#CovertAbuse #CoerciveControl #EmotionalAbuse #ToxicRelationships #ComplexTrauma
November 3, 2026 at 12:41 AM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I am relentlessly hopeful. It's a character flaw core to my being. When I've lost hope, self harm and ideation have crept in. I can't live without hope.

#hope #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #healthychoices #babysteps
Let yourself hope. Not in some touchy feely, abstract, warm & fuzzy way. Let your hope be gritty & realistic. Let it not have to fuck with denial or compartmentalization. Trauma recovery is a dark ride - but the hope that fuels it truly is grounded in science & experience. - Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays
November 6, 2026 at 3:55 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
It's taken 6 months of trauma therapy and personal trauma work to have days where I don't think about my ex. Trauma work goes chronologically backwards.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healingjourney #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong
Unless you are a survivor of narcisstic abuse, you have no idea what it means to fight daily battles in your head with a person you no longer have any contact with. Verbal, emotional, and physical abuse has residual effects on a survivor. You don't just get over it.
November 5, 2026 at 7:05 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I think I will. 💜

#NovemberGoals #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #healthychoices #babysteps #hope
Things to Keep Doing this November - Keep speaking your mind - Keep doing good for others - Keep loving wholeheartedly - Keep doing what's best for you - Keep chasing your dreams - Keep being your authentic self @_OurMindfulLife
November 5, 2026 at 5:23 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I'd say this applies to all covert #narcissists regardless of gender.

#narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #bullying #flyingmonkeys #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #survivorstrong #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healing #healingjourney
Adult female bullies don't always scream or fight. They control quietly. They twist situations to make someone feel excluded, unwelcome, or not good enough. They use triangulation, silent treatment, and their small circle of enablers to destroy someone. It's deliberate. It's purposeful. And it's abuse just disguised to look innocent.
November 4, 2026 at 3:56 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I refuse to have capacity for unempathetic people in my personal life on principle. If you treat me like shit and say the impact is not your "responsibility" that's not love.

#love #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #survivorstrong
People that love you care about how they make you feel. The end.
November 5, 2026 at 8:33 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
Dealing with a #narcissist like...

#narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #DARVO #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #survivorstrong #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #boundaries
I know, I know...I stood up for myself. Go ahead & pretend to be the victim now, you do it so well.
November 3, 2026 at 4:28 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I'm frozen, overwhelmed, & trying not to panic. Before, I used to hate when I got like this. Now that I know what's happening - either an emotional flashback or trigger of some sort - I have a clearer understanding of how to move forward. It still fucking sucks.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma
Me to my nervous system: regulate you fucking fuck.
November 4, 2026 at 11:44 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
A year ago queuing with random players terrified me, and I would've let a poor performance ruin my night. The self-loathing would've taken over. I didn't let it tonight. I'm really proud of that!

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #babysteps #healthychoices
November 3, 2026 at 3:13 AM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
If you're a victim of a narcissist, they will "both sides" you only enough to cause public confusion over who the victim is. They won't admit playing any part specifically.

#narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #abuserfacts #narcissistfacts
A narcissist will never... never,never, never. Never, never, NEVER... admit they were the cause or at fault. They will always blame their victim. It's as certain as death and taxes.
November 2, 2026 at 2:13 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
Take 1 or 2 and leave the rest. You don't have to take it all on all at once. I've already started giving myself credit for my growth. I think I'll also look for some magic.

#NovemberGoals #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #PTSD #recovery #healing #depression #mentalhealth #healingjourney
This November I Will... - give myself credit for all I've achieved this year - trust the timing of my growth - give myself the same love I give others - find magic in the small moments - honor my emotions instead of hiding them - allow myself to rest without guilt @FightThroughMentalHealth
November 3, 2026 at 1:02 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
The people who love us also don't see our #CPTSD as an opportunity to attain power & control over us.

FP loves me. Kiddo & Sil love me. I'm sure I'll find others who will treat my disability with respect.

#complexPTSD #complextrauma #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #survivorstrong
The people who love you don't see your CPTSD as a burden. They see someone who has worked incredibly hard to grow, and they are proud to walk beside you. Let yourself believe that you are wanted, valued, and enough.
November 5, 2026 at 6:07 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
I can make light of what happened to me as part of #healing. I'm also allowed to punch up at my oppressors and abusers.

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #narcissism #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #survivorstrong #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healingjourney
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November 2, 2026 at 6:39 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
#Derealization & #depersonalization are forms of #dissociation common in those with #CPTSD. I tend towards depersonalization most of the time, more as though I'm floaty or don't really exist (an attachment #trauma indicator).

#complexPTSD #complextrauma #healing #healingjourney
How do I know if I'm dissociating? By Mindful.brains Derealization - Feeling unfamiliar with your surroundings - Surroundings appear blurry, distorted, two-dimensional, or colorless - Feeling as though the world isn't real - Feeling disconnected from people as if you were separated by a glass wall - The sense that the distance, the size, & the shape of objects are distorted Depersonalization - Perceiving your body as a foreign object or not belonging to you - Feeling like you're outside your body - Feeling disconnected from your own mind, body, or self - The sense that your body, legs, or arms appear distorted, enlarged, or shrunken - Feeling detached from your emotions as if you were a robot
November 2, 2026 at 4:39 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
It doesn't work & is a waste of time. I have nothing to prove to anyone else and my ability to maintain relationships with people that hurt me proves only that I was set up to endure abuse by other abusers.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #abusesurvivor #healing #healingjourney #survivorstrong
I am deeply uninterested in spending the second half of my life proving how much I can endure. - unknown
November 2, 2026 at 9:55 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
This was extremely helpful advice I got from my therapist when I first started. It was a powerful tool that helped me claw my way out of abject despair early this summer. Highly recommend!

#depression #mentalhealth #hope #CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #healing #healingjourney #keepgoing
twloha.bsky.social TWLOHA @twloha.bsky.social · 10d
Find one thing you can look forward to. Make that thing for yourself if you need to. Starting a new book. Trying a new recipe. Exploring a new park. Give yourself future moments that help you keep moving forward.
October 30, 2026 at 9:49 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
Refusing #self-abandonment. No more shrinky dink think! It's absolute bullshit because unsafe people are going to abuse you anyway. I learned that the hard way - twice.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivor #survivorstrong
CPTSD survivors get conditioned to believe that in order to be loved - or even tolerated - we have to reduce ourselves. Hold things back. Not be truly seen or known, or else we'll be shamed, rejected, abandoned. Remind yourself: this is conditioning. Programming. Bullshit. - Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays
November 3, 2026 at 3:25 PM