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ellentift.bsky.social
Rest is an activity.
You're not "doing nothing." You're resting.
Make a note. 📝 #CPTSD #ComplexTrauma #Burnout #SelfCompassion #NervousSystem
EllenTift.com
September 28, 2026 at 9:51 PM
emmanueljohn.bsky.social
After 3 1/2 years writing the book and staring at my wounds throughout most of COVID, I'm happy to say that the dreams of that little boy broken by abuse and neglect, who wanted to become a therapist and hel
#neglected #neglect #neglecteddamagedgraced #abused #ComplexTrauma #freeatlast
September 28, 2026 at 3:15 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
#relationships #manipulationtactics #narcissisticabuse #complextrauma #cptsd

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September 25, 2026 at 11:10 PM
gardenlobster.bsky.social
Shattered is the word.

#shattered #CPTSD #PTSD #trauma #survivor #traumasurvivor #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #healing #complexPTSD #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse
If you area trauma survivor and you feel like you've been shattered with no idea how to pick up the pieces that's so valid. Trauma can shatter our identity, our sense of self, and our core and it's so easy to get lost in the brokenness with no sense of self. If you feel this way it's so valid and it's not your fault.
September 25, 2026 at 9:22 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Open call for letters asking “am I overreacting?” For a brand new podcast by an author who writes about complex trauma, narcissistic abuse, and betrayal trauma. #amioverreacting #snarky #complextrauma #narcissisticabuserecovery #cptsdsurvivor OverreactingPod at Gmail dot com
September 24, 2026 at 10:14 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
My guest blog post on the CPTSD Foundation website today is one of my most popular Substack posts. #cptsd #complextrauma #panicattack #anxietyhelp #stressmanagement

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15 Quick Bathroom Stall Resets for CPTSD Survivors (Anxiety Help Tools)
Are you ever in a public place, trying to hide your internal melt-down? Lock yourself in a bathroom stall and try these proven methods to regulate your panicked nervous system. When Your Nervous Sy…
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September 24, 2026 at 9:02 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Someone else’s forgiveness rarely resolves shame. Don’t get me wrong, guilt and shame are both unpleasant. But the work of shame is internal, and no external absolution fully tames it.

#complextrauma #cptsd #complexptsd #hardrelationships #couplestherapy

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“What Even Is Forgiveness, And What If I’m Still Mad?” - A CPTSD Survivor's Guide to Conflict (Part 11 of 11)
Did you know there’s more than one type of forgiveness? And what should you do if you’ve tried couple’s therapy and it only hurt you more?
ellentift.substack.com
September 22, 2026 at 8:56 PM
emmanueljohn.bsky.social
That is what happens when someone steals our personhood in exchange for sex. BUT IT'S JUST A GHOST FROM THE PAST It's a reflection of them not us. #traumahealing #abused #sexualabuse #complextrauma #complextraumarecovery #complextraumahealing
September 22, 2026 at 4:31 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
#cptsd #complextrauma #relationships #narcissisticabuse #emotionalhealth
September 21, 2026 at 5:51 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
To take someone who’s chosen to care for you and intentionally decide to care less in order to gain power and control is the very mechanism of abuse.
#cptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #relationships
September 20, 2026 at 9:15 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Many survivors know the pattern where the abusive person prods and pokes their target, and it’s the target’s reaction that is pointed at as the source of conflict.

#cptsd #conflictresolution #complexptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse

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When The Kids Are Listening and Have Questions - A CPTSD Survivor's Guide to Conflict (Part 10 of 11)
You work so hard to protect your child and then they hear you lose your sh-t in the next room. How can trauma survivors navigate conflict around or even with their own kids? And what’s most important?
ellentift.substack.com
September 18, 2026 at 6:43 PM
emmanueljohn.bsky.social
Childhood trauma is exactly like that. IYKYK, sadly.
One minute we're kids having a childhood then, GONE!!!
#ComplexTrauma #complexptsd
September 17, 2026 at 4:32 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
“Will I outlive this pain?”

Complex trauma survivors may feel this every single day even if they don’t think it.

#betrayaltrauma #narcissisticabuse
#cptsd #complextrauma #complexptsd
September 15, 2026 at 8:51 PM
acamh.bsky.social
💭 How do #mentalizing and a systemic approach help with #complextrauma in children?

Find out more FAQs on "Mentalising with complex clinical presentations in children and families: a systemic and trauma-informed approach" at https://bit.ly/4tXkOt7
September 13, 2026 at 1:38 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Getting in touch with underlying needs may take patience—particularly for survivors who learned early that having needs was dangerous, inconvenient, or something to be ashamed of.

#cptsd #complextrauma #conflictresolution #complexptsd #emotionalabuse

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7 Non-Negotiables No One Should Refuse You & Getting Out Ahead of Future Conflicts - A CPTSD Survivor's Guide to Conflict (Part 8 of 11)
We've covered how to manage a conflict that's happening, but what about the inevitable clashes in the future? Here are ways to prepare so they don't knock you off course.
ellentift.substack.com
September 11, 2026 at 4:34 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
CPTSD Survivors: it’s okay to scroll past the 9/11 content today. You can safeguard your emotional load, and that doesn’t mean you don’t care.

You’re allowed to set down burdens that don’t belong to you.

#cptsd #complextrauma #windowoftolerance #911remembrance #complexptsd #neverforget
September 11, 2026 at 2:33 PM
deboragray3.bsky.social
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#sasurvivor🖤 #complextrauma #cptsd #triggeredreactions #pornoinmyhead
TikTok video by A Complex Healing Journey
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September 11, 2026 at 12:30 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
If someone's abusive while battling an addiction, it’s not “the two of you against the disease.” You do not need to endure abuse in the name of supporting someone.

Addiction is no excuse for abuse.

#cptsd #complextrauma #complexptsd #emotionalabuse #addictionsupport
September 10, 2026 at 10:44 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is just stay regulated and feel okay for a day.

👍

#cptsd #complexptsd #complextrauma #cptsdhealing #cptsdrecovery
September 9, 2026 at 11:13 PM
trotter47.bsky.social
It is a cult tactic to manufacture outrage at anyone who thinks differently. It is a type of brainwashing. No dialogue, no chance you might change your opinions, or see a different side of things.

Do you know any organization that does this?

#complextrauma
September 9, 2026 at 3:54 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Someone is hurt, or says they are, and they want an apology—but after honest reflection, you don’t believe you did something wrong.

#ConflictResolution #cptsd #apology #complextrauma #hsp

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When You're Asked to Apologize - A CPTSD Survivor's Guide to Conflict (Part 7 of 11)
Sometimes they want you to say "sorry" when you didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes you did something wrong, but feel so crushed under shame, words are difficult. Here's help.
ellentift.substack.com
September 8, 2026 at 8:32 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
For some survivors, knowing someone is upset with you creates a state that’s closer to an emergency than mere discomfort. It might feel like nothing will be ok until this person is no longer angry with you.
#cptsd #hsp #highlysensitive #complextrauma #conflict
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"Am I Overreacting?" - A CPTSD Survivor's Guide to Conflict (Part 6 of 11)
Would you rather just swallow the pain and move on than admit you've been hurt? It can be hard to engage when emotions are complicated. Let's discuss.
ellentift.substack.com
September 4, 2026 at 7:18 PM
trotter47.bsky.social
#deconstruction #complextrauma #CPTSD

Are you aware of how your past influences your inner peace?
September 2, 2026 at 9:27 PM
ellentift.bsky.social
Do you tend to get disoriented in the middle of a difficult conversation and lose your bearings? Things get said one way, then a few minutes later they can be repeated back inaccurately.

#cptsd #complextrauma #amioverreacting #ihateconflict #donewithpeople

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"I Hate Losing My Bearings in Arguments" - A CPTSD Survivor's Guide to Conflict (Part 5 of 11)
Do you get so overwhelmed in conflict that you completely lose your bearings & don't know what to say? Or do you feel like the ground is shifting, but you can't put your finger on it? Let's unpack it.
ellentift.substack.com
September 1, 2026 at 5:49 PM
acamh.bsky.social
Don't miss our fantastic workshop to help #clinicians use a #mentalizing and systemic approach to assess, formulate, and treat #complextrauma in children, young people, and families.

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August 30, 2026 at 6:00 PM