We keep trying to make everyone happy.
But who's making sure we're happy?
We shouldn't have to lose ourselves to be loved.
When did saying NO become so difficult?
#PeoplePleasing #EmotionalBoundaries #SelfAbandonment
But who's making sure we're happy?
We shouldn't have to lose ourselves to be loved.
When did saying NO become so difficult?
#PeoplePleasing #EmotionalBoundaries #SelfAbandonment
October 30, 2026 at 5:29 PM
We keep trying to make everyone happy.
But who's making sure we're happy?
We shouldn't have to lose ourselves to be loved.
When did saying NO become so difficult?
#PeoplePleasing #EmotionalBoundaries #SelfAbandonment
But who's making sure we're happy?
We shouldn't have to lose ourselves to be loved.
When did saying NO become so difficult?
#PeoplePleasing #EmotionalBoundaries #SelfAbandonment
Losing Yourself in Small Concessions | SimplyJohnOne
#SimplyJohnOne #SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #HealthyBoundaries #SelfRespect
#SimplyJohnOne #SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #HealthyBoundaries #SelfRespect
October 18, 2026 at 10:01 PM
Losing Yourself in Small Concessions | SimplyJohnOne
#SimplyJohnOne #SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #HealthyBoundaries #SelfRespect
#SimplyJohnOne #SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #HealthyBoundaries #SelfRespect
Embracing your "dark side" means being yourself, honoring your needs, expressing your feelings, & not managing others' discomfort about who you are. Not everyone will like the real you, and that's okay. That's their issue to work on, not yours. 🥰 #Authenticity #HealthyBoundaries #SelfAbandonment
October 13, 2026 at 4:07 PM
Embracing your "dark side" means being yourself, honoring your needs, expressing your feelings, & not managing others' discomfort about who you are. Not everyone will like the real you, and that's okay. That's their issue to work on, not yours. 🥰 #Authenticity #HealthyBoundaries #SelfAbandonment
"Being nice" ain't so nice—it abandons yourself and enables others. You rob people of knowing the real you.
#SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #Authenticity
#SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #Authenticity
October 11, 2026 at 3:09 PM
"Being nice" ain't so nice—it abandons yourself and enables others. You rob people of knowing the real you.
#SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #Authenticity
#SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #Authenticity
Doing things for others with an agenda (so they won't leave, so they'll love you) is felt by others.
People-pleasers carry repressed anger/rage from #SelfAbandonment.
#PeoplePleasing
#Authenticity
People-pleasers carry repressed anger/rage from #SelfAbandonment.
#PeoplePleasing
#Authenticity
October 10, 2026 at 3:12 PM
Doing things for others with an agenda (so they won't leave, so they'll love you) is felt by others.
People-pleasers carry repressed anger/rage from #SelfAbandonment.
#PeoplePleasing
#Authenticity
People-pleasers carry repressed anger/rage from #SelfAbandonment.
#PeoplePleasing
#Authenticity
The Hidden Cost of Being the “Good” #Partner
#Personal Perspective:
#Kindness needs #boundaries; otherwise, it can become #selfabandonment.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/trau...
#Personal Perspective:
#Kindness needs #boundaries; otherwise, it can become #selfabandonment.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/trau...
The Hidden Cost of Being the “Good” Partner
Personal Perspective: I thought kindness meant keeping the peace. It took years to see how easily love, sacrifice, and compromise can become losing yourself.
www.psychologytoday.com
September 8, 2026 at 7:43 PM
The Hidden Cost of Being the “Good” #Partner
#Personal Perspective:
#Kindness needs #boundaries; otherwise, it can become #selfabandonment.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/trau...
#Personal Perspective:
#Kindness needs #boundaries; otherwise, it can become #selfabandonment.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/trau...
If you regularly find yourself agreeing just to keep the peace, it may be worth asking what your “yes” is really protecting you from — and whether that situation is one you want to remain in.
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #SayingNo #HealthyBoundaries #SelfAbandonment #ConflictAvoidance
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #SayingNo #HealthyBoundaries #SelfAbandonment #ConflictAvoidance
September 4, 2026 at 2:03 PM
If you regularly find yourself agreeing just to keep the peace, it may be worth asking what your “yes” is really protecting you from — and whether that situation is one you want to remain in.
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #SayingNo #HealthyBoundaries #SelfAbandonment #ConflictAvoidance
#MESHwithDrPamelaBrewer #SayingNo #HealthyBoundaries #SelfAbandonment #ConflictAvoidance
I am unlearning self-abandonment as a moral and ethical imperative. Yes, it was ingrained in me since toddlerhood that all the statements here are true and correct...or else.
#CPTSD #healing #recovery #selfabandonment #findingmyself
#CPTSD #healing #recovery #selfabandonment #findingmyself
August 30, 2026 at 8:35 PM
I am unlearning self-abandonment as a moral and ethical imperative. Yes, it was ingrained in me since toddlerhood that all the statements here are true and correct...or else.
#CPTSD #healing #recovery #selfabandonment #findingmyself
#CPTSD #healing #recovery #selfabandonment #findingmyself
The Estrangement That Connects Us
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us back—and the place where one human being begins to recognise another....
#healing #identity #relationships #selfabandonment […]
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us back—and the place where one human being begins to recognise another....
#healing #identity #relationships #selfabandonment […]
Original post on mastodon.social
mastodon.social
August 23, 2026 at 1:25 PM
The Estrangement That Connects Us
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us back—and the place where one human being begins to recognise another....
#healing #identity #relationships #selfabandonment […]
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us back—and the place where one human being begins to recognise another....
#healing #identity #relationships #selfabandonment […]
The Estrangement That Connects Us
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us…
#Healing #Identity #Relationships #SelfAbandonment #Unfolding
https://beinghumans.blog/2026/08/the-estrangement-that-connects-us/
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us…
#Healing #Identity #Relationships #SelfAbandonment #Unfolding
https://beinghumans.blog/2026/08/the-estrangement-that-connects-us/
The Estrangement That Connects Us
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us back—and the place where one human being begins to recognise another.
beinghumans.blog
August 23, 2026 at 1:20 PM
The Estrangement That Connects Us
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us…
#Healing #Identity #Relationships #SelfAbandonment #Unfolding
https://beinghumans.blog/2026/08/the-estrangement-that-connects-us/
Estrangement can separate us from our humanity, but it can also become the dissonance through which something within us calls us…
#Healing #Identity #Relationships #SelfAbandonment #Unfolding
https://beinghumans.blog/2026/08/the-estrangement-that-connects-us/
Visit the Start Here link in my bio.
#SelfAbandonment #FromBurnoutToBalance #WomenHealingWomen #StressRecovery #PersonalGrowth
#SelfAbandonment #FromBurnoutToBalance #WomenHealingWomen #StressRecovery #PersonalGrowth
July 13, 2026 at 2:01 PM
Visit the Start Here link in my bio.
#SelfAbandonment #FromBurnoutToBalance #WomenHealingWomen #StressRecovery #PersonalGrowth
#SelfAbandonment #FromBurnoutToBalance #WomenHealingWomen #StressRecovery #PersonalGrowth
You do not have to burn everything down to begin healing.
Sometimes the first shift is learning how to stop leaving yourself behind inside the life you already have. Start with From Burnout to Balance at shaniecoveneaster.com/burnout.
#burnoutrecovery #selfabandonment
Sometimes the first shift is learning how to stop leaving yourself behind inside the life you already have. Start with From Burnout to Balance at shaniecoveneaster.com/burnout.
#burnoutrecovery #selfabandonment
May 21, 2026 at 10:01 PM
You do not have to burn everything down to begin healing.
Sometimes the first shift is learning how to stop leaving yourself behind inside the life you already have. Start with From Burnout to Balance at shaniecoveneaster.com/burnout.
#burnoutrecovery #selfabandonment
Sometimes the first shift is learning how to stop leaving yourself behind inside the life you already have. Start with From Burnout to Balance at shaniecoveneaster.com/burnout.
#burnoutrecovery #selfabandonment
“The compulsion to rescue isn’t just a choice; for many, it feels like an overwhelming biological imperative.”
#RescueFantasy
#RescuerRole
#CPTSDHealing
#TraumaBonding
#FawnResponse
#ComplexTrauma
#TraumaRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuse
#RescueCompulsion
#AttachmentWounds
#SelfAbandonment
#cptsdrecovery
#RescueFantasy
#RescuerRole
#CPTSDHealing
#TraumaBonding
#FawnResponse
#ComplexTrauma
#TraumaRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuse
#RescueCompulsion
#AttachmentWounds
#SelfAbandonment
#cptsdrecovery
Rescuers: Do You Always Try to Save Others, Even When It Hurts You?
Or has someone acted as your rescuer, only to leverage it as control? Find out why this happens, what makes it so hard to stop, and what to do about it.
open.substack.com
April 13, 2025 at 2:51 PM
“The compulsion to rescue isn’t just a choice; for many, it feels like an overwhelming biological imperative.”
#RescueFantasy
#RescuerRole
#CPTSDHealing
#TraumaBonding
#FawnResponse
#ComplexTrauma
#TraumaRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuse
#RescueCompulsion
#AttachmentWounds
#SelfAbandonment
#cptsdrecovery
#RescueFantasy
#RescuerRole
#CPTSDHealing
#TraumaBonding
#FawnResponse
#ComplexTrauma
#TraumaRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuse
#RescueCompulsion
#AttachmentWounds
#SelfAbandonment
#cptsdrecovery
Their reaction is their work—your work is staying aligned.
You can hold space with love, but you can’t hold responsibility for their healing.
#SelfAbandonment #EmotionalBoundaries #HealingJourney #StayInYourPower #NotYourResponsibility
You can hold space with love, but you can’t hold responsibility for their healing.
#SelfAbandonment #EmotionalBoundaries #HealingJourney #StayInYourPower #NotYourResponsibility
June 17, 2025 at 4:07 PM
Their reaction is their work—your work is staying aligned.
You can hold space with love, but you can’t hold responsibility for their healing.
#SelfAbandonment #EmotionalBoundaries #HealingJourney #StayInYourPower #NotYourResponsibility
You can hold space with love, but you can’t hold responsibility for their healing.
#SelfAbandonment #EmotionalBoundaries #HealingJourney #StayInYourPower #NotYourResponsibility
You fight hard for everyone else. But are you fighting that hard for yourself? 👉 Today resilience coach Dawn gets real about the sneaky ways we abandon ourselves... and what to do about it.
https://dawnsuper.com/post/dailydose199
#SelfAbandonment #resilience #overcomingtrauma #reparenting
https://dawnsuper.com/post/dailydose199
#SelfAbandonment #resilience #overcomingtrauma #reparenting
May 28, 2026 at 1:27 PM
You fight hard for everyone else. But are you fighting that hard for yourself? 👉 Today resilience coach Dawn gets real about the sneaky ways we abandon ourselves... and what to do about it.
https://dawnsuper.com/post/dailydose199
#SelfAbandonment #resilience #overcomingtrauma #reparenting
https://dawnsuper.com/post/dailydose199
#SelfAbandonment #resilience #overcomingtrauma #reparenting
Not my video, but a great one about when #TraumaBond becomes #EmotionalAbuse & #ToxicRelationship
www.youtube.com/watch?v=tX2-...
#Relationship #CoupleCounselling #CoupleTherapy #RelationshipTherapy #SelfAbandonment #OnlineCounselling #OnlineCounsellor
www.youtube.com/watch?v=tX2-...
#Relationship #CoupleCounselling #CoupleTherapy #RelationshipTherapy #SelfAbandonment #OnlineCounselling #OnlineCounsellor
How to Detach from a Trauma Bond
YouTube video by Jimmy on Relationships
www.youtube.com
February 14, 2026 at 8:58 AM
Not my video, but a great one about when #TraumaBond becomes #EmotionalAbuse & #ToxicRelationship
www.youtube.com/watch?v=tX2-...
#Relationship #CoupleCounselling #CoupleTherapy #RelationshipTherapy #SelfAbandonment #OnlineCounselling #OnlineCounsellor
www.youtube.com/watch?v=tX2-...
#Relationship #CoupleCounselling #CoupleTherapy #RelationshipTherapy #SelfAbandonment #OnlineCounselling #OnlineCounsellor
Overthinking, people pleasing, and constantly needing reassurance will wear you down. That exhaustion has a name: self-abandonment. You do not have to keep living this way. Follow for the reminders that help you choose yourself again.
#selfabandonment #chooseyourself #peoplepleasing
#selfabandonment #chooseyourself #peoplepleasing
July 29, 2026 at 2:04 PM
Overthinking, people pleasing, and constantly needing reassurance will wear you down. That exhaustion has a name: self-abandonment. You do not have to keep living this way. Follow for the reminders that help you choose yourself again.
#selfabandonment #chooseyourself #peoplepleasing
#selfabandonment #chooseyourself #peoplepleasing
Do you do this? Cancel plans last minute, cancel dates? And wonder WHY? Well I have a unique online program to help assist you in recognizing why you do it and to push past it! See my web site for how YOU can stop blocking your connections! #HeartacheHelper #selfabandonment #canceling #dating #love
December 30, 2025 at 1:59 PM
Do you do this? Cancel plans last minute, cancel dates? And wonder WHY? Well I have a unique online program to help assist you in recognizing why you do it and to push past it! See my web site for how YOU can stop blocking your connections! #HeartacheHelper #selfabandonment #canceling #dating #love
The people who truly see you? They don't want the performed version. They want the real one.
But you can't offer that version if you've given it away piece by piece.
#Authenticity #SelfAbandonment #Reclamation
But you can't offer that version if you've given it away piece by piece.
#Authenticity #SelfAbandonment #Reclamation
November 7, 2025 at 1:12 AM
The people who truly see you? They don't want the performed version. They want the real one.
But you can't offer that version if you've given it away piece by piece.
#Authenticity #SelfAbandonment #Reclamation
But you can't offer that version if you've given it away piece by piece.
#Authenticity #SelfAbandonment #Reclamation
Self Abandonment: Part 1: What is Self Abandonment? buff.ly/2qcv2bw
#Abandonment #SelfAbandonment #Neglect #Trauma #Relationships #SelfWorth #Mentalhealth #Therapy #Psychotherapy #NewYorkCity #TherapistSky
#Abandonment #SelfAbandonment #Neglect #Trauma #Relationships #SelfWorth #Mentalhealth #Therapy #Psychotherapy #NewYorkCity #TherapistSky
Self Abandonment: Part 1: What is Self Abandonment?
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December 5, 2024 at 4:13 PM
Self Abandonment: Part 1: What is Self Abandonment? buff.ly/2qcv2bw
#Abandonment #SelfAbandonment #Neglect #Trauma #Relationships #SelfWorth #Mentalhealth #Therapy #Psychotherapy #NewYorkCity #TherapistSky
#Abandonment #SelfAbandonment #Neglect #Trauma #Relationships #SelfWorth #Mentalhealth #Therapy #Psychotherapy #NewYorkCity #TherapistSky
When somebody keeps making you feel unsure where you stand, your nervous-system starts scanning constantly for signs that you are safe again. #reassurance #selfabandonment
Why Reassurance Became Addictive
You kept trying to stabilize the instability
substack.com
May 29, 2026 at 1:43 AM
When somebody keeps making you feel unsure where you stand, your nervous-system starts scanning constantly for signs that you are safe again. #reassurance #selfabandonment
Self-abandonment isn’t spiritual.
I thought unconditional love meant denying my needs.
Spirit said: No.
You’re not evolving, you’re disappearing!
#spiritualgrowth #selfabandonment #consciousrelationships #awakeningtolove #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment
I thought unconditional love meant denying my needs.
Spirit said: No.
You’re not evolving, you’re disappearing!
#spiritualgrowth #selfabandonment #consciousrelationships #awakeningtolove #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment
May 23, 2025 at 5:01 PM
Self-abandonment isn’t spiritual.
I thought unconditional love meant denying my needs.
Spirit said: No.
You’re not evolving, you’re disappearing!
#spiritualgrowth #selfabandonment #consciousrelationships #awakeningtolove #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment
I thought unconditional love meant denying my needs.
Spirit said: No.
You’re not evolving, you’re disappearing!
#spiritualgrowth #selfabandonment #consciousrelationships #awakeningtolove #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment
This is true.
www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8gmkYoX/
www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8gmkYoX/
#selfworth #selfabandonment #redflags
TikTok video by Ivana
www.tiktok.com
April 18, 2026 at 3:41 PM
This is true.
www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8gmkYoX/
www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8gmkYoX/